Oh Olivia…

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Hey all!  Anybody else sick of the Olivia Show?  I know I am!  How many times can we see her in a little personal interview, saying the same boring things?  … ugh…

Atleast she’s mostly keeping that gaping mouth closed…

I guess most of the other girls are just not that interesting, so we get to see more and more of dear old Olivia?  I feel kind of bad for her actually after her little meltdown over the, what do you even call it?  Striptease?  Burlesque?  Anyway, I think maybe she’s used to being good at everything she does so when she has to put herself out there, she unravels a bit.  Pretty normal, right?

I thought it was interesting the way she was so narcissistically confident when she was telling JoJo that she was pretty sure her and Ben were basically “locked up.”  JoJo, like most people, felt her confidence and thought it was based on a sane evaluation of a real relationship, instead of what it seems to be, a narcissistic delusion blowing up small “signals” into LOVE.  Poor JoJo!

Interesting though to see what we could all be falling for in our every day lives, isn’t it?  How many people do you know who are full of s*it?  Who is snowing you about how good they are at work, in their relationships, etc.?  Something to really think about

The show had some good jokes in it this time, and the after show did too.  Give them a watch if you missed them!  Not too much else to talk about right now.  Until later!

 

 

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Girls, What’s Going to go Down on Monday’s episode of “The Bachelor, The Women Tell All?!”

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It sounds like people are really ready to see some re-matches on the upcoming episode of “The Bachelor, the Women Tell All.”  Let’s take a look at the possible line-up:

 

Carly vs. Britt

Carly was told to take a hike after she told Chris that Britt was lying to him.  Did she care that she went home?  Not really.  She was more excited that Britt was sobbing outside of the mansion after she was let go.  Geez, where is the humanity??

Carly was saying in the limo on her ride outta there something like, why can’t I find someone and be happy?  Maybe it’s because you have no compassion for other people???  I don’t know girl…

Check out what I had to say before on good-ole Carly here:

https://sliceiconic.com/2015/02/19/is-carly-from-the-bachelor-a-sociopath/

and about Carly and Britt:

https://sliceiconic.com/2015/02/17/bachelor-gossip-carly-and-britt/

 

Kelsey vs. … Everyone??

Now, one girl I didn’t write about before because I have just recently started this whole blogging thing (and I am liking it!) was Kelsey.  But wow, there certainly is a LOT to say about this girl, now isn’t there?   I don’t know, maybe she is smart, but that doesn’t explain why she was SO WEIRD.

She was so manipulative and tried to control everything that happened.  I mean, she told Chris that her husband had died just so he would feel bad sending her home (not to like, let him get to know her better or something like that)…and then afterward she looks right into the camera, smiling, and says something like, “my story is so great” (her husband died, yeah, that sure is “great”…),”it’ll get me what I want” (to stay on the show).  Wow.  Not healthy or normal behavior Kelsey, sorry to say…  Most people also show some kind of emotion when talking about someone they loved that has died… and they don’t use their “story” to get men they obviously don’t really care about to keep them on a dating show!  (Can you hear me shouting there?  Yeah, well I am…a little bit.)

It’ll certainly be interesting to see what all goes down between Kelsey and the other women who were basically trapped in the house alongside her for weeks.  Yikes, that would be stressful, don’t you think?  And ew, since we’re on the topic of strange, what did you think about that forced kiss between her and Chris when she went to see him in his room?  OMG, so creepy… was I the only one who felt that way?  Let me know in the comments, PLEASE!

 

Jade vs. Chris

I am interested to see what Jade is going to say.  I think she was an interesting young lady.  She is certainly beautiful and has what seemed to be a really good personality.  I think there probably won’t be too much drama around her and how she told Chris she was a stripper and then showed him the naked pictures of herself…

Um, THAT was awkward!  Lol we’ll see if they bring it up again!

Here is what I had to say about good old Jade:

https://sliceiconic.com/2015/02/17/bachelor-gossip-jade/

 

I think those are going to be the biggest possible conflicts we will see on the show this Monday night.  It will be interesting to see how it all plays out!  See you there!

 

 

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Is Carly from “The Bachelor” a Sociopath?

 

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She’s been called “evil.”  She’s been called a “bully.”  But, what is she really?

Well, we can’t really tell just from some clips of her, because you know how editing can make someone seem like something they’re not, but what we saw in those clips does give us an idea of what kind of a person she might be.  Let’s talk about what behavior we see in those clips.

She seems to lack empathy.  This means that she seems to have no heart, and doesn’t seem to feel for other people, and for what they are going through.  This is not normal.

She seems to enjoy watching other people suffer.  This is not normal.

She seems to do things to make other people suffer.  This is not normal.

She seems to manipulate Chris Soules, and seems to try to manipulate the other girls, so that they will all hate Britt.  This is not normal.

She jumps all over one thing that Britt said and can’t seem to understand that people can say things about something and then change their minds after they learn more about it.  Carly seems really rigid and inflexible in her beliefs.  That is not normal.

What do all of these behaviors have in common?  They are behaviors that you can see in someone who is a sociopath.  Now, I want to be clear, this isn’t saying that Carly is a sociopath, we don’t have enough information to make that type of assessment.  But it is important for everyone to understand that “bullies” and “mean girls” can have behaviors characteristic of sociopaths and other types of psychopaths.  “Sociopath” and “psychopath” are terms that refer to people with types of mental illnesses that are called personality disorders.

The medical term for sociopath is “anti-social personality disorder.”   There are several types of personality disorders, all of which can cause problems in relationships, but anti-social personality is one of the worst.  Approximately one out of every 75 men, and one out of every 300 women is a sociopath.  People with anti-social personality disorder can be very destructive to those around them; they often seriously disrupt families, businesses, organizations, governments, and society in general.  And they are all around us.

How do you know when you are dealing with a sociopath?  Sometimes it can be hard to tell because some of them are very intelligent and hide their bad behaviors very well.  On the other hand, there are the ones that aren’t trying to hide their behaviors.  Sometimes people call them assholes, and sometimes people call them jerks.  Sometimes people just don’t know what to call them, they are so completely abnormal in their behavior, it leaves others speechless.

But whether they are easy to identify or not, sociopaths do things that other people would not.  Some deliberately hurt other people for their own personal entertainment.  Some spread malicious lies behind other people’s backs in order to cause chaos and disruption.  Some act in a calculated manner to ruin people’s relationships, their reputations, their jobs, and more.  Sociopaths live as though the law and the rules do not apply to them, and that they can do whatever they want and get away with it.  Ethics don’t exist in their world.

And to top it all off, some sociopaths will find the horrible things that they are doing to be really funny.  And they will enjoy planning and executing them, like it’s a game.  You can often find them smirking to themselves as they plot against you, literally.  If you see any of these behaviors in someone, think sociopath.

An interaction with a sociopath will often elicit a strongly negative reaction from you, and you may not be able to figure out why you are feeling so upset.  It might be because you can sense that they are violating your boundaries, or that they are showing their lack of concern for right and wrong.  Pay attention to those feelings, and remember this article if you ever encounter anyone like this.  It’s usually best to stay away from them if you can.  But if you can’t, it may be helpful to directly confront their behaviors in front of a group of other people who can witness what happens (unless they are sociopaths too).  Otherwise the sociopath will keep on manipulating and lying and playing their evil little games behind everyone else’s backs.

 

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Please note that this is a very broad and complex topic and that this article only discusses limited aspects of it.  The above is for informational and educational purposes only.  If you have any specific questions or concerns, please see a physician or mental health professional.

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Empire Gossip: Last night’s episode, OOoo the Drama!

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Ok guys, so what did you think about last night’s episode?  Pretty dramatic huh?  🙂  So much went down…

You know when they showed the preview last week of Cookie and Lucious MAYBE kissing, I was like, oo-ooh, do you think they will?  But then last night…  Haha, ok, well they certainly didn’t hesitate to get back to business now did they?

I think it’s good, sort-of…  It’s obvious that they have a real connection.  But I think it’s also obvious that he really hurt her in the past, and what the hell was that?  So to be letting him back in now, that is probably going to be a big mistake for Cookie in the future.  I mean, he already showed her what he thinks of her while abandoning her for SEVENTEEN YEARS while she was in prison!  Hel-lo girl!

I think a lot of the women out there know it can be hard to let go of that true love from your past, especially if there is real chemistry, even if he was an ass.  But, hopefully as we get older, we grow and learn from those mistakes and don’t let them happen again.  Right girls?  Um, Cookie?

Now on to some BUSINESS!  Does anybody else think it’s obvious that Cookie will be the one who gets to run Empire in the end?  I know, last night kind of made it more obvious, but it has seemed that way to me from day one.  She is IN CHARGE!  She is the smart one, she knows how to handle people, she knows her music and her artists, and she is clearly a great speaker, as we saw in the episode last night.  All good skills to have to run what is really HER company after all.  And let’s face it, not one of her sons has the skills to do it.  Even combined they don’t.

There is one thing that Cookie isn’t good at, and that is trusting the people she should.  That bit last night about Elle really bugged me, in SO many ways.  Elle worked hard to get clean from heroin and then Anika (what a FREAK) dopes her to get at Cookie to make her look bad.  I mean, seriously, SICK.  Felonious-sick.  And when this happens Elle TOLD Cookie she was clean and Cookie could see that she was clean, I mean, you could tell that Elle was on board with staying clean and working hard, so then why did Cookie just turn away from her so easily?  She sticks by “her man” after all of the crap he has pulled, but the person who has worked hard for her and shown her loyalty, Elle, she just blows off in a second?  That kind of bad decision-making might just turn around and bite her.

I hated to see Elle stabbed in the back like that, not only by her supposed supporter, Cookie, but also by Cookie’s damn jealous rival, Anika.  The show made it look like one of the security guards (I think that’s who that was) might have seen what happened, so hopefully it will come to light that Anika is evil, and Elle can get back into the business she is so good at, singing.

And Anika?  Anika needs to go.  To jail.

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Bachelor Gossip: Whitney and that VOICE!

 

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Ok, first of all, I want to say Whitney seems like a really decent person.  She’s got her life together, she hasn’t been shown to be mean like Carly to the other girls, and she respects herself.  I wanted to be clear on that because I’m not writing this to put her down in any way, I’m writing it because I have noticed something about the way that she speaks which I think that we as women should all take a moment to think about in regards to ourselves and the women and girls around us.  I mean for this to be a positive post, not a negative post.

So if you’re watching ABC’s “The Bachelor” (and we know you all are!) you know that Whitney is a young lady from Chicago who is vying for the attention of a farmer dude from somewhere in the middle of nowhere, pretty much literally.  She’s one of the final three ladies left before he decides who he likes the best for himself (she can say yes or no, but they usually say yes…).

From the first time they showed Whitney* on the show, I noticed that her voice was very high pitched and a bit whiney.  It came across as if she was trying to sound like a little girl who is trying to get attention.  I have noticed this same kind of behavior in many girls and women before.  They seem to be deliberately, though not necessarily consciously, mimicking a young girl’s voice and behavior.  I think that it’s something that some women do subconsciously in order to get attention from men.  I think it might have to do with their relationships with men growing up, or other people around them, who might respond more willingly to what sounds like a young girl who needs help.

I have noticed that men do seem more interested in women who speak this way.  Men may be hard-wired to do so.  And girls who find that they get more attention by using this type of voice are probably more likely to continue to use this behavior to get attention as they grow up into adults.

I think that women, on the other hand, respond more negatively to this type of behavior.  I think that when we see a young lady or woman acting like a child who doesn’t speak in a way that we would expect for their age and maturity level, it bothers us.

When someone speaks this way, it might also be related to some kind of anxiety over one’s self and how you fit in with others around you, like a self-esteem issue or insecurity.  Anxiety can cause the voice to rise upwards in pitch, so it may be a part of why the high voice happens as well.

I would like to suggest to the women and young women out there who find themselves speaking in a voice that is higher than their actual voice, or in a submissive or needy way towards men or others, to make yourselves aware of that behavior and see if you can stop that habit.  I’d like to see all girls and women proud of who they are, and not acting overly submissive, like a child, towards others to get attention or anything else that they might want or need.  You should not be afraid to speak out and speak up for yourself.  If you find that you do feel that way, then that is something that you should explore.  I am a strong supporter of counseling as a way to find the strongest, healthiest you.

So getting back to “The Bachelor,” I’m pretty sure he picks Whitney in the end.  Why?  On the first show they highlighted her a lot and it really stuck out to me.  They seem to do that with the finalists and more so with the winner.  Just a feeling… I guess we’ll find out soon enough!

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* Now I want to note, that I mention Whitney because so many of you noticed her voice.  I thought it would be a great opportunity to bring up this topic and I am using her voice as an example, but please realize that none of the discussion comments in here are about her in particular.

 

 

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Bachelor Gossip, Carly and Britt

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Carly and Britt… Ah… Carly and Britt…

What an uh-humm interesting duo.  I wonder what the other girls really thought about these two.  The show seemed to show only Carly’s opinion, as she manipulated everyone else around her into agreeing with her.  Or wait, maybe that was a bit of bullying?  What do you think?  She certainly seemed to be a bit obsessed over Britt didn’t she?  And with trying to hurt her.  That sounds like a bully to me.

Personally, I was glad to see her get the boot.  Especially after the show showed her saying how she didn’t care if she left the show as long as something else happened (can’t remember what it was anymore, but I’m pretty sure it had to do with Britt…).  She clearly wasn’t there for Chris, she didn’t have the right intentions for being on the show, and she was clearly enjoying bullying Britt.  Not.  Cool.

Britt is gorgeous.  She did seem self-absorbed, but she wasn’t mean or evil to anyone and didn’t deserve to be treated so badly in my opinion.  Yes, the night where she interrupted Kaitlyn getting the rose was totally wrong, but I can understand what prompted her.  I guess there could have been more going on behind the scenes then we saw… that’s true.

I guess both girls have some room to grow, I just hope they look back on this time and realize that for themselves.  I would think of it as an opportunity to become a better person.  What do you think?  Add your voice in the comments.

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