“Amazing Race,” crazy twist, and more on “That Voice!”

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Suzanne Coleman

 

So all of you guys who have been keeping up with my “Bachelor Gossip” posts (and you know who you are ūüôā ) have probably already read my post on Whitney’s voice. ¬†If you haven’t, you can read it here:

https://sliceiconic.com/2015/02/18/bachelor-gossip-whitney-and-that-voice/

So now, there is another girl to add into the discussion! ¬†On this night’s premiere of “The Amazing Race,” one of the girls on a blind date FOR THE ENTIRE RACE! (awesome idea btw directors) is Hayley, a very (bleached) blond girl who is also a nurse. ¬†Right away when she talks you can hear that she¬†speaks in a very high-pitched voice, just like Whitney on “The Bachelor” does. ¬†If you watch Hayley’s¬†interview on cbs.com you can hear that her voice is not always up that high though. ¬†For her, it’s hard to say, but I think it¬†might be some of¬†the same issues as for Whitney (the “little girl voice”), but I think¬†anxiety might be¬†a bigger factor because¬†she goes in and out of the high voice while she’s being interviewed. ¬†I can understand that, I mean, she IS being filmed to be watched by millions of people‚Ķ yikes! ¬†I have to say, that is pretty darn brave.

When they started racing, and her and her partner disagreed on which way to go, I loved it when she was right and her partner was wrong! ¬†LOL in your face, boy! ūüôā ¬†I’m starting to like her…

So back to this season’s premiere of “The Amazing Race,” what a crazy idea to put together two total strangers for a how many months-long race around the world? ¬†Crazy! ¬†High stress but also what an amazing (ha!) opportunity, don’t you think? ¬†I can’t wait to see what happens with all of these pairs this season. ¬†It will be very interesting and I applaud the show for coming up with a truly new idea to freshen up not only reality shows but this one in particular that of late has¬†not been keeping my interest.

I am going to call this “the love season.” ¬†Something that is long overdue ūüôā

 

 

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Bachelor Gossip: Whitney and that VOICE!

 

The Bachelor Gossip, framed

 

by,

Suzanne Coleman, MD

Ok, first of all, I want to say Whitney seems like a really decent person. ¬†She’s got her life together, she hasn’t been shown to be mean like Carly to the other girls, and she respects herself. ¬†I wanted to be clear on that because I’m not writing this to put her down in any way, I’m writing it because I have noticed something about the way that she speaks which¬†I think that¬†we as women should all take a moment to think about in regards to ourselves and the women and girls around us. ¬†I mean for¬†this to be a positive post, not a negative post.

So if you’re watching ABC’s “The Bachelor” (and we know you all are!) you know that Whitney is a young lady from Chicago who is vying for the attention of a farmer dude from somewhere in the middle of nowhere, pretty much¬†literally. ¬†She’s one of the final three ladies left before he decides who he likes the best for himself (she can say yes or no, but they usually say yes…).

From the first time they showed Whitney* on the show, I noticed that her voice¬†was very high pitched and a bit whiney. ¬†It came¬†across as if she was trying to sound like a little girl who is trying to get attention. ¬†I have noticed this same kind of behavior in¬†many girls and women before. ¬†They seem to be deliberately, though not necessarily consciously, mimicking a young girl’s voice and behavior. ¬†I think that it’s something that some women do subconsciously in order to get attention from men. ¬†I think it might have¬†to do with their relationships with men growing up, or other people around them, who might respond more willingly to what sounds like a young girl who needs help.

I have noticed that men do seem more interested in women who speak this way.  Men may be hard-wired to do so.  And girls who find that they get more attention by using this type of voice are probably more likely to continue to use this behavior to get attention as they grow up into adults.

I think that women, on the other hand, respond more negatively to this type of behavior. ¬†I think that when we see a young lady or woman acting¬†like a child who doesn’t speak in a way that we would expect for their age and maturity level, it bothers us.

When someone speaks this way, it might also¬†be related to some kind of anxiety over one’s self and how you fit in with others around you, like a self-esteem issue or insecurity. ¬†Anxiety can cause the voice to rise upwards in pitch, so it may be a part of why¬†the high voice happens as well.

I would like to suggest to the women and young women out there who find themselves speaking in a¬†voice that is higher than their actual voice, or in a submissive or needy way towards men or others, to make yourselves aware of that behavior and see if you can stop that habit. ¬†I’d like to see all girls and women proud of who they are, and not acting overly submissive, like a child, towards others¬†to get attention or anything else that they might want or need. ¬†You should not be afraid to speak out and speak up for yourself. ¬†If you find that you do feel that way, then that is something that you should explore. ¬†I am a strong supporter of counseling as a way to find the strongest, healthiest you.

So getting¬†back to “The Bachelor,” I’m pretty sure he picks Whitney in the end. ¬†Why? ¬†On the first show they highlighted her a lot and it really stuck out to me. ¬†They seem to do that with the finalists and more so with the winner. ¬†Just a feeling‚Ķ I guess we’ll find out soon enough!

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* Now I want to note, that I mention Whitney because so many of you noticed her voice.  I thought it would be a great opportunity to bring up this topic and I am using her voice as an example, but please realize that none of the discussion comments in here are about her in particular.

 

 

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