The New Bachelorette is Announced!

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On tonight’s finale of “The Bachelor” where Ben Higgins finally made his choice in life-partner of Lauren, Chris Harrison also announced who will be the next Bachelorette.

Rumors had been swirling online that it would be Caila, but I knew that couldn’t be true, as nice as she is, I just couldn’t see it happening, and I was right.

Our next Bachelorette will be Jojo herself!  Ben’s “other woman,”  Jojo will be looking for love and having a great time doing it.  We know she’ll keep it classy and hopefully it will be an entertaining and insightful season that keeps us all watching week after week.  Hope to see you all then!

 

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“Survivor” Highlights Human Abuses

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Wow, tonight’s episode was ridiculous, I can say I’m still upset over it.  And looking at facebook, I’m not the only one.

We watched three or more people do very physical work in extremely hot conditions without any water and get sick because of it.  I watched “medical” not provide hydration for these people.  I don’t know if it’s against the rules or what but that is what they needed, plus cooling, and I sat there getting more and more upset as they showed the video and no one was taking care of these victims.  I know how serious this condition is, I’ve been through this myself.

The show ended up removing Caleb by helicopter.  Caleb is one of most people’s favorites, he seems like such a great person, caring, funny, hardworking.  A great example to others.  He worked his rear off to try and get his team to win the challenge and ended up risking his life.  All for some salt and pepper…

A lot of people online are calling the show out for unsafe conditions and going too far.  Where will it end?  Will we end up with real-life to-the-death gladiator comps?  I don’t know.  I hope not.  Providing water and shade are reasonable options.  I realize it is “Survivor,” but if no one survives… then what?

The other awful part of tonight’s show was the abuse of a woman on the “brawn tribe.”  Two large men bullied and emotionally abused this small woman.  They badgered her, they demeaned her, they belittled her.  This happens all over the world all of the time, and it needs TO END.  This is chauvinistic and misogynistic bigotry.  It’s disgusting.  These “men” are sad examples of the human race.  I feel sorry for anyone who has to interact with them or anyone like them.  But, unfortunately, I think all women and girls have been there, way too often.  I know I have.

The great thing to come out of this horrible episode was seeing so many people on facebook calling these bullying bigots OUT.  Both men and women were posting, angered by their awful behavior.  These people know right from wrong and having the strength and moral character to stand up to them, that is what I like to see.  THANK YOU PEOPLE!  Keep it up!  You are the real heroes.

The Bullies’ Claws Come Out

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It was an emotional episode of the Bachelor’s “The Girls Tell All” tonight.  We got to hear from Jubilee, Olivia, and Lace, the three women who made the most headlines during this season.  And then Caila and Ben.

Let’s start with Jubliee.  Now those of you that follow my posts know that I like this girl.  Check out my previous post here.  Before Chris Harrison even put her on the “stand” two girls started attacking her.  Wow, and you guys wonder why she didn’t feel comfortable interacting with you?  Hmm….

One of the girls was Amber but I have no clue who the other girl was.  She identified herself as “bi-racial” and it was clearly a very big deal to her.  So big that other women’s identities seemed to cause her self-esteem to weaken.  That’s not healthy.  Don’t identify yourself based on what other people think or say, be stronger, be yourself.  This is truly up to you, no one else.

She was apparently upset that Jubilee said something about her being “fully black.”  Ok, well that’s her, not you.  If you have an issue with someone I suggest you tell them right away, not let it burn a hole inside of you for months or years.  Address them right away, tell them how you feel and why.  If nothing else, when you speak up you are respecting yourself, staying silent is like letting someone else take away your voice, don’t do that.  Choose to speak up and speak out.  You can do it in a constructive way, if possible, and hopefully you can start a positive dialogue with those you are having the miscommunication or disagreement with.  But this girl apparently kept her anger inside and brought it out during the episode.  I’m sorry she has these feelings, she is a gorgeous individual and I hope she can learn to love herself regardless of what other people might think or say about her.

But things got better.  Later, when Jubilee was up on the stand, she talked about how she has difficulty with trusting people and feeling like she can count of others because she has lost her entire family.  That makes sense.  I know that a lot of people are lucky enough to have family and friends supporting and guiding them through life, helping them to know how to deal with difficult situations and people, and being a steady hand for them through life’s challenges and successes.  But she hasn’t had this.  A lot of people haven’t, and they suffer for it, often daily.

Not knowing where you stand with people and having no one to fall back on for support is exhausting.  So she faltered at times with the other girls, and didn’t respond in the way that someone who was taught how to respond would.  Don’t hold it against her.  No one is perfect and everyone has something to offer.  When someone is in a situation like her, where she feels like she is standing on uneven ground and isn’t sure where she can grab on to hold, I suggest counseling as it can teach you how to respond in those situations, to the best of your ability.  You just need to try, and things CAN get better.

I hope that people can learn from these women’s situations.  They opened up and shared very personal information about themselves and that takes real courage.  Don’t hate people because they are different, like others say, you never know what struggles they are facing, try and have compassion and understanding.  And communicate with them clearly and without attacking them and you’ll likely have a better chance of a positive impact than if you attack them, or worse, talk behind their backs.  No one can help you if you don’t let them know what the problem is, talk to them directly.

Then things progressed to Olivia.  This young woman has really been tortured throughout this process.  That is not good.  Sure, she is far from perfect, she is learning about herself like we all are (hopefully).  Not unlike Jubilee, she has some difficulties in interacting with others, I can tell you that this is not her fault.  It is usually a result of not having people around you who can show you the best ways to interact with others as you are growing up.  These skills can be learned later in life, when someone is ready to learn them.  Counseling can be very helpful for people in a situation like this, teaching them about themselves objectively and teaching them the best skills for certain social situations.

While we were watching the girls talk to Olivia, it became pretty clear who the real bullies are, Emily, her sister, Amanda, and possibly even the brown-haired girl in the back.  I don’t know what is wrong with these young ladies, but they need to take a serious look at themselves.  They feed on each other and support each other in their bad behavior, which has led them to believe that they are in the right.  They are not.  Yes, there were conflicts, but as we saw during the show, they weren’t addressed well by Emily when she “tried.”  Putting aside your frustrations and then speaking to someone is a better way to reach them, and it allows you to hear what they have to say as well.  If you really want to have a better relationship with someone, try that.

On the show last night we saw the twins repeatedly play the victim, but it seems that they are the perpetrators.  Let me be direct.  My advice?  Grow up and take some responsibility for who you really are, and then work to become a better person.

That’s all I’ll tackle today ladies.  Next week’s finale looks like it will be great!  Ben revealed that he has found the love of his life, now we just have to wait to find out which of the two girls he loves is THE ONE.

The Most Romantic Wedding Event Ever!

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Bachelor and Bachelorette fans, there is a huge surprise wedding event this Sunday on ABC.  Everyone is talking about who it can be!  The previews don’t tell us, but expect us to wait and see…

I’m betting on cute little Jade and her boy Tanner, what do you think?  They were on a recent show and said that they expected to be getting married in the next few months, well, here it is!  Did anyone think they’d last this long?  How cute 🙂

I have to ask you fans one thing, how likely do you think it is that two people who both posed naked in “Playboy/Playgirl” would meet, fall in love and end up saying “I do?”  I mean, what is the probability of that?

It’s funny if you think back to when we all met Jade a couple of years or so ago, and she revealed her big secret of having posed for money, people were shocked!  No one really knew what to think.  She endured lots of judgement.

And then, were you guys there when she and Tanner met on the “Bachelor in Paradise” and he said that HE TOO had posed for “Playgirl?!”  I was literally like, you are freaking kidding me!  It was hilarious and totally unexpected.  But I guess it was true!  Having that in common certainly helped them to make a connection.

They clicked after that and were almost inseparable, and now it seems that they are taking the walk to make the vows.  Wow.  I want to wish them best of luck, they both seem like very decent human beings who get along really well and have good chemistry.

Tune in on Sunday to see who is getting married, will it be Jade and Tanner?  Or some other couple?  Maybe Chris Harrison has found himself a new bride?!  Let’s find out together as they bring us the MOST DRAMATIC WEDDING OF THE SEASON!  😉

Farewell Olivia!

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Well ladies, the time has finally come for us to bid dear Olivia adieu.  Ben decided to let her go this evening on a two-on-one date with himself and Emily.

If you watched, you saw what happened.  And I don’t know about you, but I thought it was kind of mean to lead Olivia on by bringing the rose with them when he took her away from Emily to a private spot at the end of the two-on-one date.  What’s a girl to think except that he’s going to actually GIVE her the rose?!  Hmmm… well, he didn’t.  He dumped her instead.  The poor girl, she had just told him that she was in love with him.  He left her standing there holding back her sobs in the middle of some jagged rocks with the ocean storming in the background and walked away back to a very unattractively-gloating Emily.  😦

Another piece of business I want to get to, those people on facebook who are going around “revealing” the ending of the season.  Not cool.  I have decided to ignore them, and I am glad that I did for they were all saying that it was Lauren H. who he ended up with, which made no sense since those two have barely even made eye contact on the show.  Tonight that suspicion was confirmed as he sent her home and they both acted like strangers when they parted.

The third girl to get sacked was one who really deserved it.  Her name was Leah and I don’t know if we’ve even heard from her before tonight.  She knew she was on the chopping block with Ben and decided that instead of spending time letting him get to know her better, she should spend their time badmouthing the girl he seemed closest too.  Logical, I know.  Poor Lauren B. was her target, and she hadn’t done anything wrong except feel a strong connection with Ben on the group date that the other girls could unfortunately see as the pair was bobbing in the ocean close together in front of all of them.  So in the end Ben sent Leah packing, he just didn’t feel anything special for her and his gut told him she was full of shi*.  I think she could learn a lot from this, but then again, Emily did the same thing, badmouthing Olivia, and she got to stay.  Who knows what Ben is thinking…

Emily is too insecure and immature for any real relationship at this point, as she showed over the last 2 episodes.  She obsesses over other people instead of building her own real relationship.  Maybe it’s her way to avoid real situations and the possibility of getting hurt?

Ben went on his one-on-one tonight with Caila, a girl I honestly forgot was even on the show.  She seemed really shallow and fake when she was talking with him about her sincere feelings for him.  If that’s the case I hope he doesn’t end up with her.  Of course, it could just be the editing…

Ben and Becca seem to have some real chemistry, and share the same belief system it seems, a good basis for a long-term relationship like a marriage.  Maybe she’ll be his final rose?

JoJo is getting sucked into the whirlwind of it all and is feeling overwhelmed.  She is afraid she will get hurt because she likes Ben too much.  Hang in there JoJo, we all know how that feels.

That my friends concludes tonight’s after-summary of “The Bachelor!”  Stay-tuned for more insights and the scoop as the season progresses.  Post your thoughts below, I love to hear from you.  🙂

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Bernie Madoff, Another Sociopath?

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Since we’re on the topic of sociopaths and psychopaths lately (being that this is the biggest issue in governments, big banks, wall street, wars, ect.), let’s talk Bernie Madoff.

Over the last two days ABC has aired a mini-series about his massive Ponzi scheme which they say defrauded investors out of fifty billion dollars.  Yes, you read that right, fifty billion dollars.  Wow.

He was arrested for his scam and is now in jail for the rest of his life.  Apparently there have been 61 additional Ponzi schemes discovered since this occurred in 2008.

As a human behavioral analyst who has been studying people with personality disorders (psychopaths) over the last ten years or more, I find it important to discuss how things like this happen, so that we as a society can try and avoid having them happen over and over again.  Or at least, some of us can learn to identify psychopaths before they take all of our money, or harm us in any way.

The TV mini-series revealed several behaviors of Madoff that led me to think that he has several personality disorders or strong traits.  The obsessive attention to his watches and the order of his table-top possessions is seen in obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD).  But what isn’t as easily seen, but is also a part of the same mental illness, is the obsessions over things in one’s mind.  For example, the show discusses his need to continue to raise the number in his fake account.  This is a type of obsession.  He also appeared to have obsessions over gaining people’s trust and having them believe in his manipulations and lies as he smiled to their faces.  The lies and manipulations, especially accompanied by what I have coined as “the sociopath’s smile” or “the psychopath’s smile” are all signs of a sociopath or other type of psychopath and I have never observed them in anyone else.

Madoff’s situation as portrayed in the movie was almost like a high-stress balancing act, him standing on top of a triangular rock, trying not to fall off.  This represents his obsession with increasing his accounts at all costs.  I wonder if he even enjoyed any of the money he stole, probably.  The show did not reveal much of that side of his life.  It did show however, that his obsessions caused him to lose one of his son’s love early on, and the rest of his family appeared to follow after his crimes were revealed.

The other sociopathic behaviors that were shown were seen in how he tried to bully and control others around him.  This control issue can also arise from the OCPD.

He also treated the people around him like pawns, buying them off, buttering them up.  All to continue the scheme.  He was shown receiving a nice present from his top worker, and then turning around and giving it away to someone else.  He viewed his employees as pawns, not friends, which after decades, is a bit odd.  Or, you could say psychopathic.

He seemed to have no emotions regarding other people and their lives, including his own sons, though this was a movie and I can’t say if any of what they showed is or is not true.  But this lack of empathy towards others is a classic sign of a sociopath.

The other personality disorder (PD) or trait that they mention is narcissistic PD.  He is very abusive towards others at times when they don’t comply with his every whim and demand.  This can be due to narcissistic PD where a person’s mental illness precludes them from understanding that they are not the center of the universe and that other people have feelings and priorities of their own that have nothing to do with the self-centered psychopath.  This overlaps with the sociopath as they have no feelings so they cannot understand how their behaviors harm others.

How did this man’s mental illness impact society?  It harmed his family extensively, as would happen in any family with a sociopath.  One in 75 men, and one in three hundred women is a sociopath.  One in seven people or less has a personality disorder of any type.  Identifying and treating anyone and everyone with mental illness will only help everyone around them and I strongly recommend seeking help from a qualified therapist to start.

In addition, the show said that over 20,000 people were scammed by Madoff, and that more than 30,000 additional claims were still waiting review to see if they were also valid.

A whistleblower of sorts reported the scam to the SEC several times over the years, starting in 2000 or 2001.  According to the show, the SEC employees did not do their jobs and the scam continued and harmed more and more people.  Since much of the lost money has still not been recovered, those people impacted should consider hiring an attorney to ask them if the SEC can be held negligent in their losses.  If so, they may be able to require them to repay any monies lost since the initial whistleblower report was filed with them.

So many people have a personality disorder, or more than one like you see in this movie about Bernie Madoff.  It can be people you work with, people you live with or near, people who run your banks, your religious groups, your non-profits, your hospitals, and your government.  Isn’t it worth reading up on how to identify them?  I think personality disorders may be the biggest social issue of our time.

 

 

Here’s What’s Going to Happen Next Week on “The Bachelor”

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Ok, I can tell you what’s going to happen on next week’s Bachelor because Ben just told me, on the after show.  Seriously.

The big cliffhanger tonight was whether or not Olivia is FINALLY going to go home!  All of the girls are starting to talk to Ben about her behind her back, especially Emily who called her a bully.  Hmm… I’m not sure she’s a bully.  She has some communication issues, and maybe some other issues, but she doesn’t seem like she’s actually a bully.

So Emily was at her breaking point and went to spill the beans to Ben, crying.  Then the other girls felt they should chime in too.  So Ben was getting freaked out, did he really know Olivia, or not?!

The show ended at the rose ceremony with Ben asking for Olivia to come and talk to him while the girls waited, gasping, hoping to see her executed.  Oh, I mean sent home.  Too much of “The Tudors.”

Then they went on to the after show, which is filmed now, after the season is actually over and the outcome is known.  Ben was there and they asked him a bunch of questions, like is Olivia’s breath really awful?  Which he politely avoided answering.  He then said that the situation with Olivia was just like the situation with Nick on his season with him.  He said that he thought Nick was fine and they got along, but the other guys were really after him.  Then he said that’s the same thing that happened on this season with Olivia, that the girls are talking about her and that they don’t like her; he said it went on for weeks in the house.  Since this was the first time he heard about their issues with Olivia, he must keep her on longer for it to last for weeks.  He also said he kept her on for a while to figure out what was really true and what was just competitive feelings between the girls and Olivia.

That’s probably why the producers show all of the girls crying and really upset on the next episode.  They just couldn’t get rid of that Olivia!

On the after show they also showed that in the end Ben is in love with two girls and he seems to have trouble choosing one.  I am pretty sure this has happened before, more than once, but Chris Harrison said it’s a first for the show, so I’m guessing there’s more to the story and we’ll just have to tune in to find out the rest of it.

That was the last after party, they’re kind of fun, but I think they need to focus a bit more on content, and a bit less on the hard liquor.  Just saying…

In other news, Jubilee was sent home unceremoniously tonight.  That was a shocker!  Ben just turned on her.  I wonder about him.  He thinks he’s unlovable but the second someone has her own doubts, he sends her packing.  Maybe he should look into that a bit more.  I also think that Jubilee needs to get some counseling so she can get herself together.  She has a lot to offer but she needs to steady her self-esteem before she can be her best person.  I think she and Ben both have weakness in that area, so that’s probably why he let her go so easily.  He saw his own worst fears in her.

Also tonight I realized that Amanda looks almost the same as JoJo, no wonder I get confused…  Am I the only one?  🙂

Ok, it’s your turn to chime in, who do you think is right for Ben?  Who do you think are the two girls he falls in love with?  Let us all know in the comments!  See ya!

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Oh Olivia…

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Hey all!  Anybody else sick of the Olivia Show?  I know I am!  How many times can we see her in a little personal interview, saying the same boring things?  … ugh…

Atleast she’s mostly keeping that gaping mouth closed…

I guess most of the other girls are just not that interesting, so we get to see more and more of dear old Olivia?  I feel kind of bad for her actually after her little meltdown over the, what do you even call it?  Striptease?  Burlesque?  Anyway, I think maybe she’s used to being good at everything she does so when she has to put herself out there, she unravels a bit.  Pretty normal, right?

I thought it was interesting the way she was so narcissistically confident when she was telling JoJo that she was pretty sure her and Ben were basically “locked up.”  JoJo, like most people, felt her confidence and thought it was based on a sane evaluation of a real relationship, instead of what it seems to be, a narcissistic delusion blowing up small “signals” into LOVE.  Poor JoJo!

Interesting though to see what we could all be falling for in our every day lives, isn’t it?  How many people do you know who are full of s*it?  Who is snowing you about how good they are at work, in their relationships, etc.?  Something to really think about

The show had some good jokes in it this time, and the after show did too.  Give them a watch if you missed them!  Not too much else to talk about right now.  Until later!

 

 

Caleb Joins “Survivor!”

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Hi all!  Are you as excited as I am about seeing Caleb Reynolds from “Big Brother” on “Survivor?”  Omg, when I saw him in the season preview my mouth dropped open!  (Not like Olivia’s though, that would be scary.)

If you didn’t see Caleb on “Big Brother” he was the super built guy from the South who speaks in a nice Southern drawl 🙂  He does crazy karate or something like that and jokes around a lot.  He is a loyal player so that will be cool to see if he is true to himself or if he plays the game more strategically this time.

There have been a lot of people talking on facebook about how Caleb was obsessed with some of the women when he was on “Big Brother.”  It started of with Amber, who was beautiful, though a bit on the skinny side I think; she had green eyes and curly hair and was a gentle person.  He fell for her hard and fast and no matter what she did or said, he thought it was mutual.  Unfortunately, it wasn’t and it took him way too long to hear that she was telling him she wasn’t interested in him.

Through watching him with her and later when he talked about other girls it became obvious that his behavior was really obsessive.  There are a lot of people who get obsessed with other people, or ideas, or politics.  But there’s a point where it just isn’t healthy, for them or those around them.  That’s when you need to start thinking about getting help, like going to counseling.

When being obsessed becomes a problem, it’s probably some form of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder.  You can see this in people who shoplift as well.  What they have in common is a feeling that they find hard to ignore, for example it might make them feel like they have to do something or be with someone.  It is hard for them to realize it is unhealthy, because they’ve been like this for a long time, and most likely they grew up with someone similar, so they think it’s normal.  These feelings that they can get can move them to act in ways they might not otherwise, like stealing, or harassing someone to relieve the pressure of the feelings they have inside.

There is treatment for this, and if someone chooses to check into getting help, they’ll likely grow a lot if they go to counseling.  It’s a great way to better understand one’s self and how they can be a better and healthier person, and it works.

So people have all been talking about whether or not Caleb has dealt with any of his obsessive issues.  They are wondering if he will start obsessing over anyone on “Survivor” this year.  If he does, how will it impact his game?  Will he put people off?  Will his obsessive loyalty be his end, or his strength?  You never know!  It all depends on him and the people he ends up playing with this season.

I know that I for one will be glued to the screen to find out!  Hope to see you there 🙂  Feel free to comment below.

 

Crazy Shi*’s Going Down

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Ok guys let’s talk Bachelor!  What did you all think of tonight’s episode?  It’s FINALLY getting INTERESTING!

I’m going to jump around a bit, so hang on.  I want to start with Lace.  You remember her, the girl who keeps telling us she isn’t “crazy?”  Yeah, her.  So I wrote on fb last week that people need to just give her a chance, she is clearly working on herself and I commend her for that.  I know SO many people who should be as brave and insightful as she is, but haven’t taken that next step yet to reach out and get some help with their issues.  We all have them.  Counseling can be the most amazing thing that has ever happened in your life, I’m not kidding, so if you’re thinking about it, take that next step and give it a chance.  Just remember, not every therapist/psychologist is going to be someone you will want to work with, if you get one you don’t like, just try another one.  Trust me.

So what happened with Lace?  Well, at the end of tonight’s episode, Lace pulls Ben aside and tells him that she just isn’t feeling it.  She needs to take some time to focus on herself before she can be in a relationship with anyone.  Smart woman.  She says she has a tattoo somewhere on her that says something like “you can’t truly love anyone else until you truly love yourself.”  Ah, beautiful words.  So Lace walks away from the insanity (and you’ll see, there certainly was some insanity tonight), tears in her eyes, off to work for a better and brighter future for herself.  Good luck girl!

As a side note, Lace is the second girl to already ditch Ben!  While this is probably the most realistic (to real life I mean) season so far, where girls reject guys they don’t like, and don’t all sit around waiting for that ONE guy’s attention… with Ben’s issues of being “unlovable” I worry a bit about him.  But I think he’s making some good connections with other girls at this point so he’s probably (hopefully) more focused on those positives.  Like Jubilee.

You all know Jubilee right?  What a gorgeous woman OMG.  (Except for me personally I’m not a fan of the tattoos, but it’s her body…)  She was telling the other girls that before the last one-on-one date card arrived that she was pretty sure Ben wasn’t into girls like her, complicated girls with LAYERS.  She might be right, it’s kind-of the Bachelor theme to generally have lots of more superficial types of people.

That day’s date card comes and it’s for her!  She is floored and yells out “YES!” or something like that but then quickly realizes the other girls will be sad so she apologizes for that.  Hard situation to be in, glad I’m not there!

For their date Ben has a helicopter fly in and land on the Bachelor patio to pick them up.  Crazy, right?  I’ve been in one once and I was freaking scared, that’s for sure.  Luckily the pilot was awesome, a war veteran, shout out to you dude.

When Ben and Jub are walking to get in the helicopter Jubilee is scared and she says “anybody else want to go on my date?!” to the other girls as a joke, a way to release the stress of the fear of flying.  The producers show that the other girls, some of them atleast, are pissed off by her saying that because they thought she was rubbing the date in their faces.  Um, no, she was joking.  It was pretty obvious, at least to me.  Maybe it’s a cultural thing?  I don’t know.  Amber seemed to have a bee up her a** about that and everything else “Jubilee” for the rest of the night.  I don’t know what her deal is, I don’t even remember her from her original season…

So Ben and Jubilee go off on their awesome ride and she has a great time with him.  They end up really talking and she opens up about her past.  She was adopted… AND I DON’T KNOW THE REST because damn it I was getting my dinner and MISSED IT!!!  I know, what kind of a blogger AM I?  Sorry 😦  [I hope you can fill in the blanks below for me and everyone else.]

So right after she really opens up I walk back in the room and Jubilee is all sad and Ben says how much he really likes her because she is REAL and opens up and shares her truths with him (awesome!).  He says he LIKES complicated, deep people.  Wow, that’s great for her since that’s the VERY thing that she was worried about all day.

They get all cuddly together, and we wonder, will it last?

Back at the house, Amber and some of the other girls (sorry I can’t remember which ones were into this drama) all jump on the “we hate Jubliee” train.  It’s not because she got the date and is beautiful with insane curves, it’s because she’s inconsiderate or whatever, so they SAY.  While that is stewing, Ben comes in for the evening and has something to say.

Ben tells all of the girls that two people he cares about were just killed in an accident (sorry for your loss Ben) and the room gets sad.  He starts talking with the group of girls and Olivia (shockingly, I know) grabs him first to keep him all to herself.  No control issues THERE….

She starts telling him about her ugly ankles, I’m not kidding!  And she says nothing about his loss.  He’s clearly disappointed in her self-centered behavior, but in the end, HE FREAKING PICKS HER ANYWAY (last rose)!  Ugh.. AND he lets the super cute girl Jami go!  Oh well, it is HIS life after all.

So after a bit, Jubilee grabs him and takes him over to a private massage table that she went out of her way to set up for him, apparently he had told her that his favorite thing IN THE WORLD was getting a massage.  She, like a good friend who listens, remembered that he said that and set it up for him.  Seriously, can I marry her?  (jk I’m straight, but you get the idea.)

She gives him a short massage and he is super happy and feels much better afterwards.  While at the same time the other girls are literally shooting silver daggers out of their eyes across the garden at Jubilee.  Yes, literally, it was awesome, very sci-fi.

Well, Jubilee taking more personal time with cutie Ben was the LAST straw for insecure Amber who starts a mini-riot amongst the other girls while they sit on their butts waiting around for Ben to notice them… um, just a note, TAKE SOME INITIATIVE!  It doesn’t make you aggressive to be assertive, you need to stand up for what you want, or you may never get it.  Now back to our regularly scheduled blogging.

Amber can’t take the stress anymore though she also has a rose and is safe tonight (she got the group date rose).  She gets up and almost runs over to where Jubliee is just peacefully hanging out by herself.  Jubliee is feeling a bit apart from the other girls already, she has a history and her own issues which are coming into play here (see my note above about counseling being very helpful).  Jubilee is isolating herself a bit, which isn’t helping as the others seem to be using her pullback from them to increase the target on her back.

Amber comes over to where Jubilee is and says “Come.”  Seriously, like you might speak to a dog.  That was not cool.  Amber, please work on your interpersonal skills, thank you.  Jubliee gets upset because she feels like she is being corralled by Amber and brought to the slaughter by the group of girls waiting for her to show up with Amber.  So Jubilee goes upstairs and starts getting upset, Ben hears her and kindly checks to see what is happening.  He is talking with her when Amber walks in and, instead of trying to understand what Jubilee is dealing with, Amber starts in on her again, attacking her and her actions.  Again, Amber, get a bit of help on these interpersonal things, please.

Ben ends up stopping the impending nightmare and separates the two to their separate corners.  They both survived, this round.  We’ll see how it goes next time!

I have to say one more thing about Olivia.  This is my first blog this season so unless you have seen my fb posts, you might not know how annoying Olivia’s mouth is.  …I never thought I’d use that phrase about another person, but there it is.  She literally looks like a scary skeleton, when she just sits there, fake-looking white teeth (too many of them too) and a gaping black hole of a mouth that takes you into who knows where… the dungeon is calling, screams are heard and children go suddenly missing…  chains rattle…

So who is/are your picks for the long haul here?  I like Jubilee, Jo Jo, and Emily.  I have to give a girl-to-girl shout out to Emily who rocked the soccer field like a pro tonight!  That woman is wild and dedicated, great job, you’d be an asset to anyone’s team.

How are you all liking thie season so far?  Better than the last one?  Are you watching the after show too?  I have been, though it’s not consistently interesting (sorry guys, I’m honest).  I did like that actress who was on tonight though, Paget Brewster, girl, you cracked me up 🙂

Talk to you all later, hope you had fun, see you next week!

 

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