Oh Olivia…

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Suzanne Coleman

Hey all!  Anybody else sick of the Olivia Show?  I know I am!  How many times can we see her in a little personal interview, saying the same boring things?  … ugh…

Atleast she’s mostly keeping that gaping mouth closed…

I guess most of the other girls are just not that interesting, so we get to see more and more of dear old Olivia?  I feel kind of bad for her actually after her little meltdown over the, what do you even call it?  Striptease?  Burlesque?  Anyway, I think maybe she’s used to being good at everything she does so when she has to put herself out there, she unravels a bit.  Pretty normal, right?

I thought it was interesting the way she was so narcissistically confident when she was telling JoJo that she was pretty sure her and Ben were basically “locked up.”  JoJo, like most people, felt her confidence and thought it was based on a sane evaluation of a real relationship, instead of what it seems to be, a narcissistic delusion blowing up small “signals” into LOVE.  Poor JoJo!

Interesting though to see what we could all be falling for in our every day lives, isn’t it?  How many people do you know who are full of s*it?  Who is snowing you about how good they are at work, in their relationships, etc.?  Something to really think about

The show had some good jokes in it this time, and the after show did too.  Give them a watch if you missed them!  Not too much else to talk about right now.  Until later!

 

 

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Crazy Shi*’s Going Down

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by,

Suzanne Coleman

Ok guys let’s talk Bachelor!  What did you all think of tonight’s episode?  It’s FINALLY getting INTERESTING!

I’m going to jump around a bit, so hang on.  I want to start with Lace.  You remember her, the girl who keeps telling us she isn’t “crazy?”  Yeah, her.  So I wrote on fb last week that people need to just give her a chance, she is clearly working on herself and I commend her for that.  I know SO many people who should be as brave and insightful as she is, but haven’t taken that next step yet to reach out and get some help with their issues.  We all have them.  Counseling can be the most amazing thing that has ever happened in your life, I’m not kidding, so if you’re thinking about it, take that next step and give it a chance.  Just remember, not every therapist/psychologist is going to be someone you will want to work with, if you get one you don’t like, just try another one.  Trust me.

So what happened with Lace?  Well, at the end of tonight’s episode, Lace pulls Ben aside and tells him that she just isn’t feeling it.  She needs to take some time to focus on herself before she can be in a relationship with anyone.  Smart woman.  She says she has a tattoo somewhere on her that says something like “you can’t truly love anyone else until you truly love yourself.”  Ah, beautiful words.  So Lace walks away from the insanity (and you’ll see, there certainly was some insanity tonight), tears in her eyes, off to work for a better and brighter future for herself.  Good luck girl!

As a side note, Lace is the second girl to already ditch Ben!  While this is probably the most realistic (to real life I mean) season so far, where girls reject guys they don’t like, and don’t all sit around waiting for that ONE guy’s attention… with Ben’s issues of being “unlovable” I worry a bit about him.  But I think he’s making some good connections with other girls at this point so he’s probably (hopefully) more focused on those positives.  Like Jubilee.

You all know Jubilee right?  What a gorgeous woman OMG.  (Except for me personally I’m not a fan of the tattoos, but it’s her body…)  She was telling the other girls that before the last one-on-one date card arrived that she was pretty sure Ben wasn’t into girls like her, complicated girls with LAYERS.  She might be right, it’s kind-of the Bachelor theme to generally have lots of more superficial types of people.

That day’s date card comes and it’s for her!  She is floored and yells out “YES!” or something like that but then quickly realizes the other girls will be sad so she apologizes for that.  Hard situation to be in, glad I’m not there!

For their date Ben has a helicopter fly in and land on the Bachelor patio to pick them up.  Crazy, right?  I’ve been in one once and I was freaking scared, that’s for sure.  Luckily the pilot was awesome, a war veteran, shout out to you dude.

When Ben and Jub are walking to get in the helicopter Jubilee is scared and she says “anybody else want to go on my date?!” to the other girls as a joke, a way to release the stress of the fear of flying.  The producers show that the other girls, some of them atleast, are pissed off by her saying that because they thought she was rubbing the date in their faces.  Um, no, she was joking.  It was pretty obvious, at least to me.  Maybe it’s a cultural thing?  I don’t know.  Amber seemed to have a bee up her a** about that and everything else “Jubilee” for the rest of the night.  I don’t know what her deal is, I don’t even remember her from her original season…

So Ben and Jubilee go off on their awesome ride and she has a great time with him.  They end up really talking and she opens up about her past.  She was adopted… AND I DON’T KNOW THE REST because damn it I was getting my dinner and MISSED IT!!!  I know, what kind of a blogger AM I?  Sorry 😦  [I hope you can fill in the blanks below for me and everyone else.]

So right after she really opens up I walk back in the room and Jubilee is all sad and Ben says how much he really likes her because she is REAL and opens up and shares her truths with him (awesome!).  He says he LIKES complicated, deep people.  Wow, that’s great for her since that’s the VERY thing that she was worried about all day.

They get all cuddly together, and we wonder, will it last?

Back at the house, Amber and some of the other girls (sorry I can’t remember which ones were into this drama) all jump on the “we hate Jubliee” train.  It’s not because she got the date and is beautiful with insane curves, it’s because she’s inconsiderate or whatever, so they SAY.  While that is stewing, Ben comes in for the evening and has something to say.

Ben tells all of the girls that two people he cares about were just killed in an accident (sorry for your loss Ben) and the room gets sad.  He starts talking with the group of girls and Olivia (shockingly, I know) grabs him first to keep him all to herself.  No control issues THERE….

She starts telling him about her ugly ankles, I’m not kidding!  And she says nothing about his loss.  He’s clearly disappointed in her self-centered behavior, but in the end, HE FREAKING PICKS HER ANYWAY (last rose)!  Ugh.. AND he lets the super cute girl Jami go!  Oh well, it is HIS life after all.

So after a bit, Jubilee grabs him and takes him over to a private massage table that she went out of her way to set up for him, apparently he had told her that his favorite thing IN THE WORLD was getting a massage.  She, like a good friend who listens, remembered that he said that and set it up for him.  Seriously, can I marry her?  (jk I’m straight, but you get the idea.)

She gives him a short massage and he is super happy and feels much better afterwards.  While at the same time the other girls are literally shooting silver daggers out of their eyes across the garden at Jubilee.  Yes, literally, it was awesome, very sci-fi.

Well, Jubilee taking more personal time with cutie Ben was the LAST straw for insecure Amber who starts a mini-riot amongst the other girls while they sit on their butts waiting around for Ben to notice them… um, just a note, TAKE SOME INITIATIVE!  It doesn’t make you aggressive to be assertive, you need to stand up for what you want, or you may never get it.  Now back to our regularly scheduled blogging.

Amber can’t take the stress anymore though she also has a rose and is safe tonight (she got the group date rose).  She gets up and almost runs over to where Jubliee is just peacefully hanging out by herself.  Jubliee is feeling a bit apart from the other girls already, she has a history and her own issues which are coming into play here (see my note above about counseling being very helpful).  Jubilee is isolating herself a bit, which isn’t helping as the others seem to be using her pullback from them to increase the target on her back.

Amber comes over to where Jubilee is and says “Come.”  Seriously, like you might speak to a dog.  That was not cool.  Amber, please work on your interpersonal skills, thank you.  Jubliee gets upset because she feels like she is being corralled by Amber and brought to the slaughter by the group of girls waiting for her to show up with Amber.  So Jubilee goes upstairs and starts getting upset, Ben hears her and kindly checks to see what is happening.  He is talking with her when Amber walks in and, instead of trying to understand what Jubilee is dealing with, Amber starts in on her again, attacking her and her actions.  Again, Amber, get a bit of help on these interpersonal things, please.

Ben ends up stopping the impending nightmare and separates the two to their separate corners.  They both survived, this round.  We’ll see how it goes next time!

I have to say one more thing about Olivia.  This is my first blog this season so unless you have seen my fb posts, you might not know how annoying Olivia’s mouth is.  …I never thought I’d use that phrase about another person, but there it is.  She literally looks like a scary skeleton, when she just sits there, fake-looking white teeth (too many of them too) and a gaping black hole of a mouth that takes you into who knows where… the dungeon is calling, screams are heard and children go suddenly missing…  chains rattle…

So who is/are your picks for the long haul here?  I like Jubilee, Jo Jo, and Emily.  I have to give a girl-to-girl shout out to Emily who rocked the soccer field like a pro tonight!  That woman is wild and dedicated, great job, you’d be an asset to anyone’s team.

How are you all liking thie season so far?  Better than the last one?  Are you watching the after show too?  I have been, though it’s not consistently interesting (sorry guys, I’m honest).  I did like that actress who was on tonight though, Paget Brewster, girl, you cracked me up 🙂

Talk to you all later, hope you had fun, see you next week!

 

Joe the Psycho?

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by,

Suzanne Coleman, MD

We all gasped in horror as we listened to the things that Joe Bailey said on “Bachelor in Paradise” this past season, didn’t we?!  What a psycho…

Watching the new talk segment that followed the show, I heard one of the guests call Joe a sociopath.  What do you think, is that what’s wrong with him?

If you have been following my “Bachelor” blog, you know that I wrote a piece last season about Carly, yes the same Carly who was just on “Paradise,” asking if SHE was a sociopath.  If you haven’t read it, you should.  It covers all of the basics on how to tell if someone is a sociopath.  Important stuff!

While she may have seemed heartless on “The Bachelor,” on “Paradise,” Carly seemed pretty normal, though I do need to add that I only watched about half of the show.  Seeing her again in a different setting and under different circumstances, it was clear that her edited comments on “The Bachelor” made her seem like a terrible person.  Also, “The Bachelor” didn’t show enough of Britt’s bad behaviors to explain WHY Carly was so annoyed by her, and this helped contribute to our negative impression of Carly.  I think that now that most of us have learned more about Britt, we can understand Carly’s reactions to her much better.

So, back to Joe.  Is he really a cold, heartless bastard?  Or is it just another case of editing-gone-wild?  That, I couldn’t tell you.  But what we saw of him on the show sure does make it seem like he has no compassion for other human beings, doesn’t it?

That’s basically what defines a sociopath, a person who doesn’t have the capacity to care about others.  It is also someone who believes that the laws and rules of society don’t apply to them.  They do whatever they want and think that they will get away with it.  They don’t care about how their actions, or inactions, affect others.

This psychiatric disorder affects an estimated 1% of the human population, but it’s much more common in males than in females.  Here are the numbers as estimated by the US government:

One out of 75 men is a sociopath.

One out of 300 women is a sociopath.

It is really quite a common disorder.  Once you start to understand this you will realize how many sociopaths you have known.  They may be your boss, your co-worker, an ex, a family member, a neighbor… the list goes on.

So now that you know all of this, what can you do to protect yourself?  Stay very far away.

This psychiatric disorder is essentially untreatable and incurable.  Sociopaths are harmful towards others.  Someone doesn’t have to be a mass-murderer to be a sociopath, and I think that’s something that most of us used to think.  A sociopath can be that person who screws over other people at work, or in a relationship.  They have no empathy.  They hurt other people, and sometimes they think it’s funny to do so.  “Incurable” means that no matter how much time one spends trying to help someone like this, it is almost impossible to change them.  It would be a waste of time and energy, and will usually end up harming the person trying to help.

I hope that this article helped to bring this disorder to light.  Please share with your friends and family so that they don’t become the next victim of a sociopath, because they are EVERYWHERE.

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