Bachelor Gossip: Whitney and that VOICE!

 

The Bachelor Gossip, framed

 

by,

Suzanne Coleman, MD

Ok, first of all, I want to say Whitney seems like a really decent person.  She’s got her life together, she hasn’t been shown to be mean like Carly to the other girls, and she respects herself.  I wanted to be clear on that because I’m not writing this to put her down in any way, I’m writing it because I have noticed something about the way that she speaks which I think that we as women should all take a moment to think about in regards to ourselves and the women and girls around us.  I mean for this to be a positive post, not a negative post.

So if you’re watching ABC’s “The Bachelor” (and we know you all are!) you know that Whitney is a young lady from Chicago who is vying for the attention of a farmer dude from somewhere in the middle of nowhere, pretty much literally.  She’s one of the final three ladies left before he decides who he likes the best for himself (she can say yes or no, but they usually say yes…).

From the first time they showed Whitney* on the show, I noticed that her voice was very high pitched and a bit whiney.  It came across as if she was trying to sound like a little girl who is trying to get attention.  I have noticed this same kind of behavior in many girls and women before.  They seem to be deliberately, though not necessarily consciously, mimicking a young girl’s voice and behavior.  I think that it’s something that some women do subconsciously in order to get attention from men.  I think it might have to do with their relationships with men growing up, or other people around them, who might respond more willingly to what sounds like a young girl who needs help.

I have noticed that men do seem more interested in women who speak this way.  Men may be hard-wired to do so.  And girls who find that they get more attention by using this type of voice are probably more likely to continue to use this behavior to get attention as they grow up into adults.

I think that women, on the other hand, respond more negatively to this type of behavior.  I think that when we see a young lady or woman acting like a child who doesn’t speak in a way that we would expect for their age and maturity level, it bothers us.

When someone speaks this way, it might also be related to some kind of anxiety over one’s self and how you fit in with others around you, like a self-esteem issue or insecurity.  Anxiety can cause the voice to rise upwards in pitch, so it may be a part of why the high voice happens as well.

I would like to suggest to the women and young women out there who find themselves speaking in a voice that is higher than their actual voice, or in a submissive or needy way towards men or others, to make yourselves aware of that behavior and see if you can stop that habit.  I’d like to see all girls and women proud of who they are, and not acting overly submissive, like a child, towards others to get attention or anything else that they might want or need.  You should not be afraid to speak out and speak up for yourself.  If you find that you do feel that way, then that is something that you should explore.  I am a strong supporter of counseling as a way to find the strongest, healthiest you.

So getting back to “The Bachelor,” I’m pretty sure he picks Whitney in the end.  Why?  On the first show they highlighted her a lot and it really stuck out to me.  They seem to do that with the finalists and more so with the winner.  Just a feeling… I guess we’ll find out soon enough!

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* Now I want to note, that I mention Whitney because so many of you noticed her voice.  I thought it would be a great opportunity to bring up this topic and I am using her voice as an example, but please realize that none of the discussion comments in here are about her in particular.

 

 

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The Very First Annual Official Unfriend Day

unfriend day fb graphis, Jan 1st with blue border around white

by,

Suzanne Coleman

I hereby declare January 1st as the FIRST OFFICIAL ANNUAL “UNFRIEND DAY!”  On this day we are all free to unfriend all of those CRAZY, ANNOYING, BORING, whatever “FRIENDS” we have added over the years on facebook and have realized that we just don’t want to keep them around anymore.

No more “custom” posting, hiding posts, making secret groups, now you can feel free to come out in the open and say “I am going to unfriend all of you suckers!”  LOL!  Ok, maybe not quite like that, but… I say go for it.  National Unfriend Day has now gone OFFICIAL!

Wouldn’t life be just that much more awesome without having to scroll by the endless political posts of those obsessive-compulsive types?  What about no longer seeing loopy, goofy posts by those schizotypal personalities, oh boy!  Yes, yes it would be MUCH more awesome.  And this day lets you do just that WITHOUT ANY GUILT!

That’s right, this day is 100% GUILT-FREE!  No one can ever come back to you and whine “why did you unfriend me!?” and go and badmouth you to all of your mutual “friends.”  Nope, not anymore!  National Unfriend Day is the PERFECT way to get them out of your life, no strings attached.  Go for it!

This way all of those narcissists who never ONCE commented on or liked ONE of your posts, but expect your COMPLETE attention on their incessant self-centered posts are GONE from your life!  And that’s GREAT!

Go ahead and enjoy your “unfriend” clicking this January 1st, you even get a whole DAY OFF for it!  It’s PERFECT!  And when you’re done, sit back, let out a huge sigh of relief and give me a smile, that’s all the thanks I need.  🙂

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