Joe the Psycho?

The Bachelor Gossip, framed

by,

Suzanne Coleman, MD

We all gasped in horror as we listened to the things that Joe Bailey said on “Bachelor in Paradise” this past season, didn’t we?!  What a psycho…

Watching the new talk segment that followed the show, I heard one of the guests call Joe a sociopath.  What do you think, is that what’s wrong with him?

If you have been following my “Bachelor” blog, you know that I wrote a piece last season about Carly, yes the same Carly who was just on “Paradise,” asking if SHE was a sociopath.  If you haven’t read it, you should.  It covers all of the basics on how to tell if someone is a sociopath.  Important stuff!

While she may have seemed heartless on “The Bachelor,” on “Paradise,” Carly seemed pretty normal, though I do need to add that I only watched about half of the show.  Seeing her again in a different setting and under different circumstances, it was clear that her edited comments on “The Bachelor” made her seem like a terrible person.  Also, “The Bachelor” didn’t show enough of Britt’s bad behaviors to explain WHY Carly was so annoyed by her, and this helped contribute to our negative impression of Carly.  I think that now that most of us have learned more about Britt, we can understand Carly’s reactions to her much better.

So, back to Joe.  Is he really a cold, heartless bastard?  Or is it just another case of editing-gone-wild?  That, I couldn’t tell you.  But what we saw of him on the show sure does make it seem like he has no compassion for other human beings, doesn’t it?

That’s basically what defines a sociopath, a person who doesn’t have the capacity to care about others.  It is also someone who believes that the laws and rules of society don’t apply to them.  They do whatever they want and think that they will get away with it.  They don’t care about how their actions, or inactions, affect others.

This psychiatric disorder affects an estimated 1% of the human population, but it’s much more common in males than in females.  Here are the numbers as estimated by the US government:

One out of 75 men is a sociopath.

One out of 300 women is a sociopath.

It is really quite a common disorder.  Once you start to understand this you will realize how many sociopaths you have known.  They may be your boss, your co-worker, an ex, a family member, a neighbor… the list goes on.

So now that you know all of this, what can you do to protect yourself?  Stay very far away.

This psychiatric disorder is essentially untreatable and incurable.  Sociopaths are harmful towards others.  Someone doesn’t have to be a mass-murderer to be a sociopath, and I think that’s something that most of us used to think.  A sociopath can be that person who screws over other people at work, or in a relationship.  They have no empathy.  They hurt other people, and sometimes they think it’s funny to do so.  “Incurable” means that no matter how much time one spends trying to help someone like this, it is almost impossible to change them.  It would be a waste of time and energy, and will usually end up harming the person trying to help.

I hope that this article helped to bring this disorder to light.  Please share with your friends and family so that they don’t become the next victim of a sociopath, because they are EVERYWHERE.

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Is Carly from “The Bachelor” a Sociopath?

 

The Bachelor Gossip, framed

by,

Suzanne Coleman, MD

 

She’s been called “evil.”  She’s been called a “bully.”  But, what is she really?

Well, we can’t really tell just from some clips of her, because you know how editing can make someone seem like something they’re not, but what we saw in those clips does give us an idea of what kind of a person she might be.  Let’s talk about what behavior we see in those clips.

She seems to lack empathy.  This means that she seems to have no heart, and doesn’t seem to feel for other people, and for what they are going through.  This is not normal.

She seems to enjoy watching other people suffer.  This is not normal.

She seems to do things to make other people suffer.  This is not normal.

She seems to manipulate Chris Soules, and seems to try to manipulate the other girls, so that they will all hate Britt.  This is not normal.

She jumps all over one thing that Britt said and can’t seem to understand that people can say things about something and then change their minds after they learn more about it.  Carly seems really rigid and inflexible in her beliefs.  That is not normal.

What do all of these behaviors have in common?  They are behaviors that you can see in someone who is a sociopath.  Now, I want to be clear, this isn’t saying that Carly is a sociopath, we don’t have enough information to make that type of assessment.  But it is important for everyone to understand that “bullies” and “mean girls” can have behaviors characteristic of sociopaths and other types of psychopaths.  “Sociopath” and “psychopath” are terms that refer to people with types of mental illnesses that are called personality disorders.

The medical term for sociopath is “anti-social personality disorder.”   There are several types of personality disorders, all of which can cause problems in relationships, but anti-social personality is one of the worst.  Approximately one out of every 75 men, and one out of every 300 women is a sociopath.  People with anti-social personality disorder can be very destructive to those around them; they often seriously disrupt families, businesses, organizations, governments, and society in general.  And they are all around us.

How do you know when you are dealing with a sociopath?  Sometimes it can be hard to tell because some of them are very intelligent and hide their bad behaviors very well.  On the other hand, there are the ones that aren’t trying to hide their behaviors.  Sometimes people call them assholes, and sometimes people call them jerks.  Sometimes people just don’t know what to call them, they are so completely abnormal in their behavior, it leaves others speechless.

But whether they are easy to identify or not, sociopaths do things that other people would not.  Some deliberately hurt other people for their own personal entertainment.  Some spread malicious lies behind other people’s backs in order to cause chaos and disruption.  Some act in a calculated manner to ruin people’s relationships, their reputations, their jobs, and more.  Sociopaths live as though the law and the rules do not apply to them, and that they can do whatever they want and get away with it.  Ethics don’t exist in their world.

And to top it all off, some sociopaths will find the horrible things that they are doing to be really funny.  And they will enjoy planning and executing them, like it’s a game.  You can often find them smirking to themselves as they plot against you, literally.  If you see any of these behaviors in someone, think sociopath.

An interaction with a sociopath will often elicit a strongly negative reaction from you, and you may not be able to figure out why you are feeling so upset.  It might be because you can sense that they are violating your boundaries, or that they are showing their lack of concern for right and wrong.  Pay attention to those feelings, and remember this article if you ever encounter anyone like this.  It’s usually best to stay away from them if you can.  But if you can’t, it may be helpful to directly confront their behaviors in front of a group of other people who can witness what happens (unless they are sociopaths too).  Otherwise the sociopath will keep on manipulating and lying and playing their evil little games behind everyone else’s backs.

 

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Please note that this is a very broad and complex topic and that this article only discusses limited aspects of it.  The above is for informational and educational purposes only.  If you have any specific questions or concerns, please see a physician or mental health professional.

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