“Survivor” Highlights Human Abuses

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Suzanne Coleman, MD

Wow, tonight’s episode was ridiculous, I can say I’m still upset over it.  And looking at facebook, I’m not the only one.

We watched three or more people do very physical work in extremely hot conditions without any water and get sick because of it.  I watched “medical” not provide hydration for these people.  I don’t know if it’s against the rules or what but that is what they needed, plus cooling, and I sat there getting more and more upset as they showed the video and no one was taking care of these victims.  I know how serious this condition is, I’ve been through this myself.

The show ended up removing Caleb by helicopter.  Caleb is one of most people’s favorites, he seems like such a great person, caring, funny, hardworking.  A great example to others.  He worked his rear off to try and get his team to win the challenge and ended up risking his life.  All for some salt and pepper…

A lot of people online are calling the show out for unsafe conditions and going too far.  Where will it end?  Will we end up with real-life to-the-death gladiator comps?  I don’t know.  I hope not.  Providing water and shade are reasonable options.  I realize it is “Survivor,” but if no one survives… then what?

The other awful part of tonight’s show was the abuse of a woman on the “brawn tribe.”  Two large men bullied and emotionally abused this small woman.  They badgered her, they demeaned her, they belittled her.  This happens all over the world all of the time, and it needs TO END.  This is chauvinistic and misogynistic bigotry.  It’s disgusting.  These “men” are sad examples of the human race.  I feel sorry for anyone who has to interact with them or anyone like them.  But, unfortunately, I think all women and girls have been there, way too often.  I know I have.

The great thing to come out of this horrible episode was seeing so many people on facebook calling these bullying bigots OUT.  Both men and women were posting, angered by their awful behavior.  These people know right from wrong and having the strength and moral character to stand up to them, that is what I like to see.  THANK YOU PEOPLE!  Keep it up!  You are the real heroes.

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Caleb Joins “Survivor!”

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Suzanne Coleman, MD

Hi all!  Are you as excited as I am about seeing Caleb Reynolds from “Big Brother” on “Survivor?”  Omg, when I saw him in the season preview my mouth dropped open!  (Not like Olivia’s though, that would be scary.)

If you didn’t see Caleb on “Big Brother” he was the super built guy from the South who speaks in a nice Southern drawl 🙂  He does crazy karate or something like that and jokes around a lot.  He is a loyal player so that will be cool to see if he is true to himself or if he plays the game more strategically this time.

There have been a lot of people talking on facebook about how Caleb was obsessed with some of the women when he was on “Big Brother.”  It started of with Amber, who was beautiful, though a bit on the skinny side I think; she had green eyes and curly hair and was a gentle person.  He fell for her hard and fast and no matter what she did or said, he thought it was mutual.  Unfortunately, it wasn’t and it took him way too long to hear that she was telling him she wasn’t interested in him.

Through watching him with her and later when he talked about other girls it became obvious that his behavior was really obsessive.  There are a lot of people who get obsessed with other people, or ideas, or politics.  But there’s a point where it just isn’t healthy, for them or those around them.  That’s when you need to start thinking about getting help, like going to counseling.

When being obsessed becomes a problem, it’s probably some form of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder.  You can see this in people who shoplift as well.  What they have in common is a feeling that they find hard to ignore, for example it might make them feel like they have to do something or be with someone.  It is hard for them to realize it is unhealthy, because they’ve been like this for a long time, and most likely they grew up with someone similar, so they think it’s normal.  These feelings that they can get can move them to act in ways they might not otherwise, like stealing, or harassing someone to relieve the pressure of the feelings they have inside.

There is treatment for this, and if someone chooses to check into getting help, they’ll likely grow a lot if they go to counseling.  It’s a great way to better understand one’s self and how they can be a better and healthier person, and it works.

So people have all been talking about whether or not Caleb has dealt with any of his obsessive issues.  They are wondering if he will start obsessing over anyone on “Survivor” this year.  If he does, how will it impact his game?  Will he put people off?  Will his obsessive loyalty be his end, or his strength?  You never know!  It all depends on him and the people he ends up playing with this season.

I know that I for one will be glued to the screen to find out!  Hope to see you there 🙂  Feel free to comment below.

 

They’re BAAACK! The Bachelorette “twins” make their appearance

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Suzanne Coleman

Hey everybody!  Hope you fared well since “The Bachelor” ended.  I can’t believe it’s time for “The Bachelorette” to start up already!

Tonight was the first episode, the one where the guys get out of the limos, or in this case, motorized cupcakes?  Hmm… where the heck did he get that thing anyway?  Ok, and what did you think of the “carpool?”  That was cool.  I’m not sure how comfortable that guy was wearing wet pants for the rest of the night though, what do you think?

Choosing between two girls, who then have to choose between 25 guys, an interesting premise.  I think they could really do something interesting with this idea, but it sounds like it won’t be going very far, after tomorrow’s follow-up episode, they say it’ll be just one girl.  The guys voted tonight on which one they’d rather get to know, and the other one, well, maybe she’ll be the NEXT Bachelorette?  Should we vote on that?  😉 lol

Watching these two ladies, I’m not a fan of either one.  I’m hoping the show will still be worth watching just to see what happens between all of the other people on it; relationships can be so interesting.

Britt is still SO FAKE.  I just can’t see her being happy in a relationship until she realizes who she really is.  Until then, it’s like she’s putting on a show, and I don’t even think she realizes it, but it’s getting really old (read about histrionic personality:  extra dramatic and overly sexual to get attention).

Kaitlyn seems ok, but then they replayed her jokes from last season, and they are pretty classless in my opinion, but hey, it looks like at least one guy gets her sense of humor/class.  Hope it works out for her.  Neither girl lacks in the looks department.  Kaitlyn does look at bit underweight to me though, which is concerning, especially with her ever-present anxiety issues on today’s episode (eating disorders are a type of anxiety disorder, not that I am saying that she has either).

Ok, now on to some of the crazy characters on the show.  What did you all think about “the drunk guy?”  Pretty convenient huh?  Doesn’t this make the third season with a drunk guy on it?  I think the first one was real, maybe the second one was too, but this one, seemed REALLY FAKE.  Seriously, he did not look drunk, his eyes were sharp and clear and his movements were deliberate, even when he stumbled at the pool, his glass of liquor didn’t even spill at all.  If you fell, drunk or not, wouldn’t you think you’d spill that glass?  Un huh.  And what about him going in the pool?  That brought a lot of drama the other season when a guy did that too.  Re-play much?  I guess the only thing he did that I haven’t seen done before was pat a raunchy girl on her ass.  Funny how that fits the personality she portrays in her jokes, but she wasn’t liking it on the show.  Maybe she should learn some new jokes…

And maybe the weirdest one of all, the “amateur sex coach.”  Um, whaaaa’?  Ok, that is some messed up stuff.  I hope nobody gets involved with this guy until he figures out what his issues really are.  Yikes.  Anybody who thinks a woman is a “play toy” might actually need to be playing for the other team.

So which lucky woman will get to talk to these gents again?  (Minus the drunk guy who got booted off of the show by a stern Chris Harrison.  I think for a second there Chris thought he was about to get decked when he told the guy he needed to leave!  And that guy was built too.  Good thing that that very large security guard was nearby or we might have seen Chris Harrison’s body being carried overhead through the complex and dumped into the pretty blue pool lol!)

There are a couple of guys on there that seem really decent, I look forward to watching to see more of what they’re all about.

Then we came to the end of tonight’s episode, and the answer of the big question, WHO WILL BE THIS SEASON’S BACHELORETTE?!  Well, um, maybe not.  In the last 5 minutes I realized that they weren’t going to tell us the outcome of the votes tonight.  Ugh.  It was all too “Survivor.”  Chris Harrison even quoted the show with his “I’m going to go tally the votes.”  And then he never came back and they flew back to LA while we all waited on the edge of our seats!  …  Ok, that last part didn’t happen, but it COULD HAVE!

We’ll all have to tune in tomorrow to find out who will be this season’s Bachelorette, Britt or Kaitlyn.  When the votes are counted, I think Kaitlyn will have to win for the show to have any real feel to it at all.  We’ll see!  What do you think will happen?

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“Survivor,” Too much drama?

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Suzanne Coleman, MD

I can’t believe it’s already Wednesday again!  Last week’s episode of “Survivor” had tongues wagging about what Will did to Shirin.  It was pretty clear that he was WAY out of line.  I think everybody pretty much agreed on that!  The thing is, why didn’t he see it?

I’m sure you all probably saw what happened.  Somebody told Will that other people in the tribe thought he was lying about sharing all of his secret food reward stash with the group.  I think it was Rodney, wasn’t it, who first started saying this about Will behind his back and trying to get everybody else to believe him?  But Rodney’s name never came up…

So somebody tells Will about these conversations and he gets it in his head that it was Shirin that was targeting him, calling him a liar.  I think that he did that because he sees her as an easy abuse target, probably because for whatever reason people haven’t really clicked with her in the game, so he thinks he can attack her and no one will come to stand beside her.  Therefore, Will can just let her have it, and get away with it.  Well, he was right. He started yelling at her, expressing his anger at being called a liar (he wasn’t lying, so that I get), but then he morphed into evil abuser Will and wouldn’t shut up.  He pulled apart her soul, attacking her entire life and her emotional weaknesses.  The poor woman has had a difficult life, she doesn’t need this ass to bully her over it. But he wouldn’t stop, and no one there, not one person, did a thing to intervene.  It was almost like it was a play, and those were their roles, to sit dumbly by, and let him crush her with his emotionally abusive behavior.  It was sick.

Finally Mike came back to camp and pulled her out of there while she was still sitting there in total shock that Will was being so evil.  Then, when they were away from the others, we all saw how it affected her.

I, good person that I am, was thinking that when Will opened up his mouth at the challenge after that, that he was surely going to apologize for his terrible behavior.  But no, that isn’t what happened.  Not at all.

What happened next was that Will showed that he truly is an abuser.  He believed that his verbal and emotional abuse of this other person was a normal way to behave. This tells me that he likely grew up in an environment where this was their “normal.”  People, let me tell you, this is NOT normal.  If you can’t deal with your frustrations with other people in a constructive and respectful way, then you need to walk away.  And if after you cool off you still can’t do it the right way, then you need to get some help. Counseling is a great way to truly improve your health and well-being and to make you a better person to those around you.  And if you have issues like Will, you need to take this step to learn what behaviors are healthy and what behaviors are not healthy. Abusing others is never acceptable.  There is no excuse for that behavior, period.  Counseling can show you how to repair the damages that life has done to the way that you see the world and interact with it, helping you to be a better person for yourself and for those around you.

After last week’s abusive incident, some people on facebook were questioning why the producers of “Survivor” allowed it to happen.  That is a great question.  I would bet that it’s because it is “Survivor.”  Survival of the fittest, a true challenge of one’s humanity, strength, and resilience.

I think that when Shirin finally spoke out against Will, her abuser, she regained her strength.  Even if no one else had stood up for her, she needed to stand up for herself, and she finally did that, arm raised high and all.  Good for you girl, I am behind you, I think we all are on this one.  Just look around.

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