Crazy + Drama = Crazy Drama…

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This episode of “The Bachelorette” was full of the pre-requisite drama and crazy, stay tuned to find out more!  Let’s start at the beginning.

They are going to have the rose ceremony, you know, the one they were SUPPOSED to have at the end of last week’s episode?!  Omg, I can’t even remember what happened on that episode and NOW they’re having the rose ceremony?  Geez…  I feel totally disconnected from the show’s characters.  Am I the only one who thinks this is annoying?

But wait, before they even get to the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn has to deal with Kupa who seems to have gone off the deep end after she told him “eh, it ain’t gonna work for us.”  Kupa is yelling outside and everyone can hear him.  Kaitlyn ends up walking out there to tell him to basically grow up.  I think that how Kaitlyn handled things was good; she was classy and appropriately assertive when he was getting out of hand.

After she asks him to behave she goes back inside and they show that Kupa is still going crazy outside, but quietly, waving a drink in his hand as he gestures to the camera crew.  Maybe his drinking is part of his problem?  Unaware, back inside Kaitlyn hands out the roses from last week’s episode.  I can barely remember who most of these guys are or what happened, except “cupcake,” I can remember him :).  After it’s over, three more guys are gone, two of whom I don’t even think they ever showed in any of the scenes.

Next, it was on to today’s “date” festivities.  Sumo wrestling.  Wha’???  Yep, you heard me right!  Two massive sumo wrestling champions from Japan came to California to wrestle the tiny-in-comparison American boys.  L.O.L.!!  Hilarious.  Now, that’s good entertainment.  It was fun watching them easily push the guys around.

You gotta love those “diapers” that the wrestlers had to wear, how funny 🙂  I have a question though, and maybe I’m not alone.  Why did they pixelate the guys’ butts?  They don’t pixelate women’s cleavage.  It’s not really that different, and here we have just one more example of sexism in our society.  Let us see the butts!  I mean, seriously.

During the sumo wrestling, which is supposed to be all in fun, one of the contestants on the show, Tony, shows us again that he has some real mental health issues.  He gets very aggressive when it’s his turn to go, and then when he isn’t the “big man” he thinks that he is, his ego is hurt and he then deflects the blame for his extremely negative feelings on to Kaitlyn for “making” him feel that way.  He really needs to get some help from mental health professionals who can help him figure out his issues.  The things that he seems to do to try and get his life into better “balance,” like meditation, work to a degree in some ways but they are not sufficient to treat mental illnesses.  I hope he gets some help and can improve his ability to deal with life’s challenges.

Now on to the next date, a scary experiment.  For Kaitlyn’s one-on-one date with Ben Z., Chris Harrison set up this crazy “game.”  The two of them were locked in a dark set of rooms filled with scary stuff, like a haunted house.  They had to find clues in there and figure out how to turn those clues into numbers to open the door so they could get out before some “gas” was released into the rooms.  That was pretty creative I have to say!  I loved the part where the scary person wrapped in sheets that was on the bed got up and moved around!  OOoooo THAT was SCARY.

There were also things people are scared of, like live snakes and scorpions and pigeons in there.  “Wait, did you just say pigeons?” you ask.

“Yes, yes I did, pigeons.”

“Hmm, those aren’t scary…” you think.

“I know, I agree!” I say.

It seems that those were added especially for Kaitlyn who said she has a bird phobia.  I feel bad for her, birds are awesome.  Maybe not pigeons per se, but other birds like warblers and sparrows…  But it was funny to see her and Ben freak out at the things that scared them, as safe as they may be.

I don’t know what to say about the next group date, do you?  There are so many negative responses to it on facebook.  Kaitlyn had the gents talk to a group of young people about sex and the maturation process.  It was very weird, and awkward.  I’m all about education and people having the knowledge they need to make good decisions, but it was a bit odd the way that they did it.  During the episode they said that the kids were all actors, but still, odd.  I am hoping that like many kid actors they were much older than they were perceived to be, that would make me feel more comfortable about what happened there.

Now on to the really juicy stuff.  So the show has these two boys, I call them boys, because really they are so immature and strange, named Clint and JJ.  They are both very narcissistic and that makes them self-absorbed, but they also seem to have some seriously manipulative and abusive traits that make them appear to be little sociopaths (one in 75 men is a sociopath, one in 300 women is as well).  And like sociopaths, they also seem to lack empathy towards others.

I have always noticed that psychopaths (like both narcissists and sociopaths are) tend to be attracted to people with the same behaviors, and here we have the unusual mutual attraction between two men with many psychopathic behaviors.  It’s a bit scary to watch, but serves as a good example to everyone watching on how to AVOID people like this in your life!  HOLY COW.

The show ended with Kaitlyn about to confront creeper Clint about his lies and manipulative behaviors.  But, of course the show didn’t let us see what happens, we have to wait until next WEEK to find out.

I don’t know what they are thinking with their new format.  Almost all of the people commenting online are not happy about this nor about the other changes they have made, and they are saying they’ll stop watching because they dislike it so much.  I am wondering if the ratings are dropping off too, or if this is just a vocal minority speaking their mind.  As for me personally, I wish they would finish the show in one night like they used to, it’s hard to remember all of the details that lead up to the ending a week later.

Since we have the internet, I decided to try and find out how their ratings ARE doing.  I found that the ratings for last week’s episode were 5.37 million viewers.*  I also read that one of last season’s episodes was reported to have had the lowest number of viewers EVER at an estimated 5.6 million viewers.**  Uh oh, it looks like they really are losing viewers over these last few years, as this recent number is even lower than their lowest number EVER.  Maybe they should take a bit of time to read what viewers are saying online.  There are some really good suggestions on there as to what might be preferable to watch vs. what they have been doing lately.

They did post a call for new contestants at the end of the show, and these are live-in-person calls at various locations.  So maybe there is a chance that they are going back to the way more successful and popular format of several years ago.  We’ll see…

All things considered, Kaitlyn is growing on me a little bit, and that’s good.  This season should be interesting, there seem to be some good guys on it and she seems to actually be there to meet someone (but who knows…).  You can see that she is making strong connections with a few of them already.  Lucky her lol.

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Sources on viewer data:

*http://tvbythenumbers.zap2it.com/2015/05/27/monday-final-ratings-no-adjustments-to-the-bachelorette-or-american-ninja-warrior/408895/

**http://www.bustle.com/articles/25861-the-bachelorette-pulls-lowest-ratings-ever-andi-dorfmans-season-is-doomed

“Bachelorette” Missteps

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Suzanne Coleman, MD

I thought that the season preview footage that they showed at the end of the this week’s episode of “The Bachelorette” was very disturbing.  It was implying that Kaitlyn had sex with one of the men on the show and that afterwards she felt terrible about it, and basically acted like her life was over.  Wow.  What country is this?  What century?  Disturbing.

This isn’t to say that there is never a reason to be upset about making what you later feel is a bad decision, but their portrayal of the situation took women back 1000 years.

Let’s discuss some basics here.  Human beings are animals.  All creatures exist for one reason only, biologically, and that is to reproduce.  Our entire body and existence is to serve that one purpose, to propagate the species.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with the feelings, drives, desires and actions which lead to that.  It is only through the attempts to control and manipulate the behaviors of others which societies have been enacting for centuries that this becomes so “confusing.”

In summary, when it comes to sex the only thing you need to decide is whether a decision is right for you and anyone else involved, that’s it.  Be safe and plan for what you want out of life, but grown women should not be writhing with horror and regret at having consensual sex, ridiculous.  Sad.  Manipulative.  Controlling.  Misogynistic.  Let’s end that.

They’re BAAACK! The Bachelorette “twins” make their appearance

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Hey everybody!  Hope you fared well since “The Bachelor” ended.  I can’t believe it’s time for “The Bachelorette” to start up already!

Tonight was the first episode, the one where the guys get out of the limos, or in this case, motorized cupcakes?  Hmm… where the heck did he get that thing anyway?  Ok, and what did you think of the “carpool?”  That was cool.  I’m not sure how comfortable that guy was wearing wet pants for the rest of the night though, what do you think?

Choosing between two girls, who then have to choose between 25 guys, an interesting premise.  I think they could really do something interesting with this idea, but it sounds like it won’t be going very far, after tomorrow’s follow-up episode, they say it’ll be just one girl.  The guys voted tonight on which one they’d rather get to know, and the other one, well, maybe she’ll be the NEXT Bachelorette?  Should we vote on that?  😉 lol

Watching these two ladies, I’m not a fan of either one.  I’m hoping the show will still be worth watching just to see what happens between all of the other people on it; relationships can be so interesting.

Britt is still SO FAKE.  I just can’t see her being happy in a relationship until she realizes who she really is.  Until then, it’s like she’s putting on a show, and I don’t even think she realizes it, but it’s getting really old (read about histrionic personality:  extra dramatic and overly sexual to get attention).

Kaitlyn seems ok, but then they replayed her jokes from last season, and they are pretty classless in my opinion, but hey, it looks like at least one guy gets her sense of humor/class.  Hope it works out for her.  Neither girl lacks in the looks department.  Kaitlyn does look at bit underweight to me though, which is concerning, especially with her ever-present anxiety issues on today’s episode (eating disorders are a type of anxiety disorder, not that I am saying that she has either).

Ok, now on to some of the crazy characters on the show.  What did you all think about “the drunk guy?”  Pretty convenient huh?  Doesn’t this make the third season with a drunk guy on it?  I think the first one was real, maybe the second one was too, but this one, seemed REALLY FAKE.  Seriously, he did not look drunk, his eyes were sharp and clear and his movements were deliberate, even when he stumbled at the pool, his glass of liquor didn’t even spill at all.  If you fell, drunk or not, wouldn’t you think you’d spill that glass?  Un huh.  And what about him going in the pool?  That brought a lot of drama the other season when a guy did that too.  Re-play much?  I guess the only thing he did that I haven’t seen done before was pat a raunchy girl on her ass.  Funny how that fits the personality she portrays in her jokes, but she wasn’t liking it on the show.  Maybe she should learn some new jokes…

And maybe the weirdest one of all, the “amateur sex coach.”  Um, whaaaa’?  Ok, that is some messed up stuff.  I hope nobody gets involved with this guy until he figures out what his issues really are.  Yikes.  Anybody who thinks a woman is a “play toy” might actually need to be playing for the other team.

So which lucky woman will get to talk to these gents again?  (Minus the drunk guy who got booted off of the show by a stern Chris Harrison.  I think for a second there Chris thought he was about to get decked when he told the guy he needed to leave!  And that guy was built too.  Good thing that that very large security guard was nearby or we might have seen Chris Harrison’s body being carried overhead through the complex and dumped into the pretty blue pool lol!)

There are a couple of guys on there that seem really decent, I look forward to watching to see more of what they’re all about.

Then we came to the end of tonight’s episode, and the answer of the big question, WHO WILL BE THIS SEASON’S BACHELORETTE?!  Well, um, maybe not.  In the last 5 minutes I realized that they weren’t going to tell us the outcome of the votes tonight.  Ugh.  It was all too “Survivor.”  Chris Harrison even quoted the show with his “I’m going to go tally the votes.”  And then he never came back and they flew back to LA while we all waited on the edge of our seats!  …  Ok, that last part didn’t happen, but it COULD HAVE!

We’ll all have to tune in tomorrow to find out who will be this season’s Bachelorette, Britt or Kaitlyn.  When the votes are counted, I think Kaitlyn will have to win for the show to have any real feel to it at all.  We’ll see!  What do you think will happen?

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OK, here goes, “The Bachelor, The Women Tell ALL!” IS ON NOW

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OK guys!  I am going to give this live blogging a try!  We are all waiting for “The Bachelor, The Women Tell All” to begin!  I’ll keep writing here as the show goes along, hope it’s fun for you too 🙂  And here we go… it’s ON.

So it looks like from the previews we’re going to see all the match-ups I thought we might!  It looks like a lot of DRAMA is about to UNFOLD!

Here were my predictions:

https://sliceiconic.com/2015/02/27/girls-whats-going-to-go-down-on-mondays-episode-of-the-bachelor-the-women-tell-all/

 

And, it begins…

Love those viewing parties, lol, the drunk girls, HILARIOUS!  Gotta love ’em 🙂

 

Kelsey vs. Ashley

OOooo Kelsey, bringing more drama…  nobody is up to HER standards.

Haaahaa Ashley burns her, saying Kelsey’s laugh is such a “fake laugh”  as she laughs as evilly as possible to demonstrate lol.

 

Carly… the word I don’t like to use.

 

Carly vs. Britt, it is ON.  Chris H. wasn’t ready…

Britt calls out Carly for being a FAKE FRIEND to her in the house.  That is NOT COOL of Carly at all.

I can’t believe Carly just said to Britt, “my friendship with you.”  Wow, you thought you were her friend?

Whoa!  Jillian speaks up and agrees that Carly was really mean and out of line at SO many times.  I guess Carly said some awful things about her in the limo on the way to the mansion in the very beginning of the show.  Jillian is really upset about how Carly acted towards her AND Britt and says that Britt is truly a nice person, but Carly… not so much.

 

Britt is on the hotseat now.

She’s getting the chance to answer the girls’ comments that went on about her behind her back.  She wants everyone to know she loves kids and totally wants them.  I guess they misunderstood something she said at one point and were talking about it behind her back.  That made her upset.

Now Carly jumps in (shocking).  Carly is trying to defend what she told Chris.  She says she was the third girl to tell Chris that Britt didn’t want to move to Arlington.  Then Carly starts rehashing the things Britt said.  Now Britt has to defend her thoughts that she WOULD be cool moving to a tiny town that Chris is from.

Britt is really emotional, she seems to still have feelings for Chris.

OMG they keep talking over each other… hard to follow!  Several girls seem to have some issues with Britt.  They think she was flip-flopping between what she told them and what she told Chris in private.

Chris Harrison steps in to end the bickering and redirect.  He asks Britt what she came on the show for.  She says she came on for love and she thinks that she was “this close.”  She is almost crying again.  She does seem like she is acting a bit at this point…

Britt cries more to Chris “off camera.”  Does this mean it’s real?  Not sure.  She may be acting…

She sits down and it’s obvious some girls don’t like her.  The one sitting next to her ignores her completely, while another offers a comforting hand on her shoulder.

On to:

 

Kelsey

(this girl bugs me…) “isn’t my story amazing, it’s tragic.  But it’s.. amazing.”  Ew, the really awkward forced kiss.

And then the ?panic attack? that leads to more special attention time for her from Chris.

LOL replay of the girls happy excitement when they are “immeasurably blessed” that Kelsey is OFF THE SHOW!  I think a few of us in the audience were feeling a bit of that ourselves as well.

OMG she is saying that being on this show for her was like when her husband died; she is saying things along that vein.  That seems like she is being very manipulative in order to gain sympathy…

Chris H. is giving Kelsey a chance to set things right.  Kelsey apologizes to Ashley for the things she said in anger as a response to her betrayal and seemed genuine.  Ashley seemed to accept the apology, but we are on a commercial…

…We’re back.. Juelia says Kelsey is the fakest person ever.  Juelia also had her husband die.  Now another woman talks about her father dying.  They both felt Kelsey was very fake and calculated.  They’re not alone…

Ashley might not accept her apology.  Chris H. asks her, well didn’t you also talk badly about Kelsey behind her back?  Ashley is like, “well… yeah lol.”

Jillian speaks up to defend Kelsey when others question if her marriage was even real.  Jillian is a very compassionate person.  And her earrings are AWESOME.

Kelsey cries and explains how hard it was to go through losing her husband.  She seems honest and genuine.  I think she is just a very different type of person than many others are and she is misinterpreted for that reason.  Britt* speaks up and tells the others they really need to stop saying things like Kelsey made her husband up (even if they are wondering about that); it just isn’t the right thing to do.  Ashley seems too young to understand?  But she seems to start to understand as she realizes Kelsey is for real.

We should remember compassion for others who are different.  Good reminder here.

 

Let’s talk Ashley S. says Chris

.…comedic relief time!    He says he has never seen someone like her before…

LOL it IS funny!  She brings Chris H. an onion lol (because she kept going on about an onion and its layers on the show)!  He says it’s the best (and only) gift he’s ever gotten from one of the girls on the show.  Haha, he has a sense of humor.  She said she has started growing her own onions since the show.  For real..

When he asked her what was the deal with the pomegranate tree, she said she thought the tree looked fake (I can relate, we don’t see that kind of thing around here either) to explain why she was acting so goofy.

Her dress is awesome…

Funny jokes from the show, her with an ax and Chris Soules saying he doesn’t want to get murdered or something… lol.

Chris H. invites her to join “Bachelor in Paradise” and the crowd goes wild chanting “DO IT!  DO IT!  DO IT!”  Ashley S. doesn’t give an answer… we are to be held in suspense.

 

Ooo it’s Jade’s turn!

Chris S. seemed to really like Jade, until she told him she posed for playboy, and then showed him the pictures …and the video… ugh.  AWKWARD JADE.

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Jade wants to ask Chris if he let he go because of the “nude modeling” or what?  She read on his blog that he felt like she wasn’t the girl that he thought that she was.  She was crushed, and is still upset talking about it now.  She wanted honesty, especially after she was so honest and trusting with him.

She wants closure.

 

Now on to Kaitlyn.

She says felt blindsided when Chris let her go.  Especially after he told her he was “falling in love with her.”  His favorite phrase that episode…  and btw when did they change it and allow the Bachelor to say how they feel?  They always used to make them stay silent about that.  Hmm, I feel like I missed something…

Up next, The Bachelor himself, Chris Soules.  It’s about to get juicy.

 

Chris Soules and Britt

They hug, it’s so sweet.

She wants to figure out what happened.  She was confused.  He says it wasn’t due to what Carly said, but to an overall lack of compatibility.  She says a bunch of nice stuff. It doesn’t seem to really flow with what she was expressing before…?  It didn’t really feel genuine.  Now I’m really not sure about her.  I think maybe she was just faking it to be on tv.

 

Chris S. and Kaitlyn

She wants to know what happened after he acted like he was really serious about her.  He says he has no “true explanation.”  He says he was “literally falling in love with three women,” and then something like “it was like throwing darts at a dart board.”  How ROMANTIC!  lol 🙂  Glad I’m not her.  Maybe it’s a farmer thing?

 

Chris S. and Jade

She confronts him, nicely.  She believed what he said, but now she’s not really sure.  He looks at her, no expression on his face…  She was upset (and still is) that he said he was “disturbed” by how different she seemed to him versus what her family told him about her.

He says that he was telling her the truth that it wasn’t about the playboy stuff she did/showed him.  Maybe I spaced out but I didn’t really hear much of anything helpful out of him in this case.  Again, this match-up seemed a bit fake and scripted, though Jade certainly seemed genuinely upset earlier… she was too easily placated by him when she confronted him.

Maybe what people say about the reality shows being scripted is true.

 

Back to Chris H.

Now, for some out-takes.  Yikes Chris S. has a weird laugh…  apparently, it’s like a dolphin.

Some out-takes are funny.  Some are a bit odd.

And that’s the show everybody!  They ask you to tune in next week for the, guess what, dramatic season finale.  😉

 

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*Oops put the wrong name.  Had Carly, but it was Britt.  It’s corrected now 🙂

 

 

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