What is causing all of this anger towards Kaitlyn? Find out here!

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Suzanne Coleman, MD

There’s been a lot of conversation surrounding the behavior of many fans towards Kaitlyn, the current Bachelorette.  I wanted to take a minute to talk about that.

You might be surprised to learn what the reasons are that some of these people are acting this way.  Have you ever heard of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)?  You might have heard of obsessive-compulsive disorder because it’s been talked about quite a bit on TV over the last decade or so.  Well, OCPD isn’t the same thing, though they have some things in common.

OCPD is where the word “fan” originally came from, well that was back when the full word was used, “fanatic.”  OCPD are people who are literally obsessed and feel compelled to act on those obsessions.  This can be an obsession with anything or anyone.  It can obsessions with famous people, someone down the street, religious ideas, political issues, and more.  The problem comes when the person isn’t able to see clearly and rationally due to their illness, and then acts in an unhealthy way, for themselves and/or others.

With Kaitlyn, her choices this season (and the choices of the producers of the show “The Bachelorette”) have struck a nerve with a good number of people.  Some of the people who have had a problem with her decisions have lashed out at her, becoming degrading and verbally abusive.  This is their attempt to control her behavior, which obviously they have no right to try and do.  But, because people who behave this way often have OCPD or trait, their obsessive disease forces them to express their opposition to what she has done in forceful ways, and that is called compulsion.

In addition, people with personality disorders are generally inflexible and have difficulty compromising with others.  This often becomes an issue when they cannot accept others’ different points of view or life choices.  So when they are faced with someone who lives their life in a way that isn’t one that they would choose, or that they have been told to believe is “right,” then this causes them a lot of internal angst and they can lash out as a result.

Most people with this disorder aren’t aware that they have it and don’t know how to get the help they need in order to stop the problems that it can cause.  OCPD and other personality disorders are not uncommon, in fact one out of every seven people in the US has a personality disorder.  Those who have them will generally benefit from counseling which can literally change their lives for the better.  It’s important to understand that these are diseases, no different than diabetes and high-blood pressure.  And like those diseases, they also require treatment and monitoring to get them under control.  In this case, counseling with a therapist qualified to treat personality disorders and abnormal personality traits is what is needed.

The people who have these disorders do not choose to be impacted this way by their illness, and no one should lash out at them or be hateful towards them in response.  Instead, look at this as an opportunity to be compassionate towards those who cannot control their impulses, try to lead them to the help that they need in a supportive manner.

Also note that OCPD isn’t the only underlying reason for abusive behavior, but I have found that it is a very common one.  There are other personality types that abuse as well, including borderline PD, anti-social PD, and narcissistic PD.  Helping to increase the understanding of the reasons behind why some people do what they do might just lead some people to get the help they need to live a happier and healthier life.

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*Please note that I don’t know any of the people who have made negative comments about Kaitlyn individually, and no one can make a definitive medical diagnosis without a proper evaluation.  This article is meant to share information on general behaviors and what likely causes them and not to label any individual or individuals.

Never hesitate to seek out help from a professional, it just might be the best thing you ever did!  And I always tell people, if one counselor isn’t working out for you, just find a different one.  It’s your health and it’s your decision.

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These Guys have some SERIOUS SCORES to settle with Kaitlyn!

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Before we experience the insanity that is going to be Monday’s “After the Final Rose, The Men Tell All,” I think it’s time to take a step back and review what has happened with the men that are going to be on that show.  Now, remember, these are the poor guys that Kaitlyn rejected, often pretty badly.

Let’s start with Chris, the dentist, Cupcake.  This poor guy was whisked off on a super romantic date to the high cliffs of Ireland over-seeing the ravaging ocean.  On the cozy helicopter ride there, Kaitlyn was all over him, flirting and giving him all the right signals.  They land and start to have a meal, then somehow out of NOWHERE, this girl just dumps his sweet little behind.  This dude was smacked in the face blind-sided, there is NO DOUBT about it.  He was kicked in the face with the hind-hooves of a donkey breying.  That girl is about the worst breaker-uper I have ever seen, seriously, for real.

So she leaves the poor guy stunned and alone on the edge of a freaking cliff and he starts to sob like his whole life is OVER because she isn’t into him.  He steps near the edge of the cliff, like he’s about to jump, and the TV crew moves to pull him back when he steps back on his own.  Seriously, what was that all about?  That is pretty scary.  Dude needs to talk to a counselor and the producers need to keep these guys away from the edges of CLIFFS!!  I hope he’s there on Monday…

Ok, then there’s Joe.  Good old Joe, a little too slow to get into Kaitlyn’s… heart?  She slammed him upside the head with a heavy brick when she kicked him to the curb.  Complete blindside, it seemed to him, to us, maybe not so much.  The poor guy didn’t see it coming and he didn’t react well.  Will he give Kaitlyn the piece of his mind that she deserves?  Or will the show script it to something nice and pleasing?  (I.e. BORING)

Now, when she let Ben H. go, it wasn’t so bad.  It was during a rose ceremony and he was basically like, eh, ok.  It was no big deal.  It seemed pretty obvious that he was trying to make something work with Kaitlyn, but he wasn’t really feeling much of anything for her.  It seems like his past relationships may have messed him up to the point where he can’t really judge what he truly wants and needs.  The news is that he’s going to be the next bachelor, so I hope he finds a good match there.  He’s so young, he has time.

What about good ole Brady, will he even be there?  If he is, I bet Britt will be there too.  If so, will it all be about Britt and her pretty, pretty hair?  🙂  I guess we’ll have to wait and see.  I can already imagine how it’s going to go down:  we get to watch as Britt tosses her hair around and tries to use her eyes to get what she wants; all of the while she’s saying “Kaitlyn?  Kaitlyn who?”

Oh gosh, who can forget about Clint and JJ?  (Well, to be honest, I almost did.)  These two were a show in and of themselves.  It’s too bad it got cut short when the, um, a**h*** Clint was finally seen for what he was by Kaitlyn, and got sent home.  Clint immediately turned on his supposed friend JJ and verbally and emotionally abused him.  What a dick.  I hope he gets the counseling he desperately needs.

The other UGH of the season, creeper Ian will be there according to the promos.  Really, I have ZERO interest in what this “person” has to say about anything or anyone.  NEXT!

I’m sure that the young-un Jared will be there.  Dude, PUHLEASEE shave that face!  O.M.G.  Dude.  Seriously.  Ok, that’s all.  He clearly wasn’t in love with Kaitlyn, unless you count puppy love.  That boy is way too young for an adult relationship, or at least that’s how he seems.  He’ll get there.

The rest of the guys didn’t really make enough of an impression on me to include them here.  I think Monday will be pretty interesting to watch, that’s for sure.  There will certainly be some CRAAAZY stuff going down.  I will see you there!

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Ben H. chosen to be the next “The Bachelor!”

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Suzanne Coleman

Hey guys, I just heard that Ben H. who Kaitlyn let go just this Monday is supposed to be the next Bachelor!  Wow, what a cutie that guy is 🙂  I think that should be a good show.  I just hope he shows a little more emotion and personality than he did on this season.  He’s got the looks, that is for sure.

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