by,
Suzanne Coleman, MD
Hi all, I just wanted to talk about “The Bachelor” a little bit. For those of you who are watching, let’s talk about last night’s episode, shall we?
So if you watched, you saw the super cute and sweet young lady named Jade tell the Bachelor, Chris, about her past. She was holding on to a big secret and it was time to tell it. She had posed for “Playboy.” She sat him down and they talked about it, she even showed him the pictures and video of it (I’m not sure why) and then he told her how it didn’t matter to him. And then he cut her loose.
So, let’s talk about that. I want to know what you all think. Do you think she should have told him? Do you think she should have showed him her pics and the video of her nude? Do you think he let he go because of it, even though he, of course, said it wasn’t that at all…
Here are my thoughts on it all. I think she should have told him, but much later in their relationship. There was no need to tell him at this point as they are really just starting to get to know each other and find out if there is a connection between them. If they found that they were in love and headed for a serious relationship (I know, this show isn’t really normal life…), I think that then she could tell him about it.
Should she have shown him the pictures? In my opinion, absolutely not. He didn’t ask to see them, and it was not necessary or appropriate. That might have been the deal-breaker more than anything. It would be so uncomfortable to be in a new relationship with someone, and to have them show you nude, and probably not so “artistic,” pictures of themselves. And even video. Besides making the other person very uncomfortable, they would have to question why you would want to show them these very personal photos of yourself. Plus, you are really ruining the mystery in that aspect of the relationship. Now, discovering each others’ bodies will be a bit, tainted.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong (or right) with her posing, that is her decision absolutely. The human body is something that we all have, there is nothing shameful about it and we should never feel that there is. But it is something special, which for her is now out there in the open and has changed the way that he looks at her and thinks about her. I think that is unfortunate.
I wish her the best, and I hope she finds it. I think she can do better than Chris anyway 🙂 I did really like what he said to her as he let her go, he told her that knowing her was “a gift.” I think that is one of the most beautiful things that I have ever heard.
http://abc.go.com/shows/the-bachelor/cast/19-bachelorette-jade
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